I feared rejection as because I had been rejected because of it before. Well I recently told her and now she doesnt want to talk with me or see me. What do I do? I want things to go back being as perfect as they were before I told her.
2007-02-17 12:59:47 · 26 answers · asked by Carlos 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
What do you do? Well, first off, do not blame her for her reaction. You've been together 8 months and you never told her?! That is lying, and relationships are to be built on trust. You were not trustworthy and you put her at risk, which shows a great amount that you don't really give a crap about her
2007-02-17 13:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by sayruh02 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I can see your not telling her when you first met. You've got to get to know people before you start spewing all your personal stuff. But 8 months?! Did you have sex? If so, you should have told her right BEFORE you had it and let her decide whether she wanted to continue. The risk would have been hers. Instead you put her at risk and now she may have to deal w/the consequences. The only thing you can do now is apologize and hope she doesn't sue you or let the authorities know. Or get someone to kick your butt. But seriously, you've possibly given her an STD! Do you really think she'll thank you for it and get back w/you? You need a reality check.
Thank God you didn't have HIV/AIDS. Would you have told her then or been too scared of rejection?
2007-02-17 13:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by FunnieBunnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, things clearly were not perfect before. If they had been perfect you would have had no problem confronting her about having herpes. If she is like me and half of the girls in the world she is upset because you kept it from her, not because you have herpes. Starting now, be as up front with her as possible. If you did not tell her about your fear of rejection now is the time. Be patient, and don't stop SHOWING her that you care. Write letters, send flowers, etc. Don't be pushy and you will have her back in no time. If she knows you care for her and respect her she is not going to let herpes get in the way.
2007-02-17 13:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jamaica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Herpes is a highly contagious viral infection. Its caused by HSV-2 a.ka veneral herpes. Genital herpes duffers from other STDS. It consists of two differnt phases.(work with me I'm trying not to use medical terms and break it down) Active stage: symptoms are prestent and the virus can be spread. Dormant stage: individual is free of symptoms but some individuals can still tranmit herpes during this stage. I you should give her some time, have her get checked, check with you doctor about getting Valtrex, and ALWAYS USE A CONDOM!! to help spreading it to your partner.
2007-02-17 13:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by j_z_256 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am absolutely terrified and I feel so alone. I just found out last week that I tested positive for hsv1 and 2. I have been with the same man for the past 10 years and within the last year found out that he has cheated on me with numerous women. I am so scared that I can give it to my children by kissing them and them eating with me...I feel like my whole life has changed. And even though the nurses, my doctor, and websites say that a lot of people have it I still feel like I am by myself. My self esteem has dropped and I feel like I have been used up. But now, My life is very happy.
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2016-05-14 17:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adios Jon........ you lied to her right from the get go..... And.... about a disease that will stay with her the rest of her life, and could possibly affect her family and children down the line. She might not have rejected you if you had been up front about the herpes. But you had to lie to her.....now you're being rejected because you're a liar. Did you have the common decency to use condoms??? Or did you think that she'd reject you for that??
2007-02-17 13:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell her before or after you had sex? Before, then you are better off to pursue a relationship with someone who is willing to make the effort to be in a sexual relationship with someone with Herpes and can love you despite the Herpes. After, and you showed blatant disrespect and disregard for her health, emotional and physical. You not only possibly gave her a lifeling struggle with sexual relations and intimacy, but you gave her the same fear of rejection that you have.
2007-02-17 13:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did WHAT? That was just totally immoral. You not only lied to her but you put her health at risk. You showed total disrespect for her and she left you. I hope she sues you. And just so you know, because of that lie you did not have a perfect relationship. You had one built on a lie. You're lucky that wasn't me. I'd have beaten you to a pulp and then dumped you. Maybe you've learned your lesson and next time you'll be more of a man and tell the truth.
2007-02-17 13:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by PasoBrio13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you didn't tell her. That actually disgusts me. 8 months and you didn't tell her you had an STD.
She's crazy if she goes back to you. Things aren't going to be 'perfect' again because you lied to her. The sooner you face that the sooner you can move on with your life.
You know, she probably would have been a whole lot nicer and understanding about the situation if you'd told her at the beginning.
2007-02-17 21:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of herpes are we talking about here? Oral or genital? I have oral, was born with it. True it sucks when I've had to do it, but if I'm having a relationship with someone, I'll let them know. I've had it turn out both ways, just gotta see what happens.
In your case though, good luck man.
2007-02-18 17:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by Nick L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋