I have just lost my father, can anyone advise me on coping with grief. serious answers only please.?

Answer 1

sorry to hear that i lost my father to and i know how hard it is. Coping with grief is something that is different for everyone and we all have certain ways that we deal with things. I personally buried my head in the sand and didn't think about it and ran on autopilot for a while but then all the grief came flooding out about 2 years later. talk to your doctor they may be able to put you in touch with people that can help and have been through the same thing. Talking to someone is good wether its an understanding friend who is happy to sit there and listen to you for hours and it will help you cope. You will get through it just do it in your own way and your own time. x

Answer 2

Hi there, sorry for your loss. All these other answerers keep telling you that time heals. All time does is take the edge off. I lost my father on Jan. 5, 1997. He was just 58 years old. Blood clot they said. A few weeks ago was 10 years that hes been gone and I still have bad days where I miss him like it happened yesterday. What you have to do is make sure you dont hold it in. Me being the way I am, I couldnt talk to family and cry my eyes out. I should have. But I did find private time and I talked to dad like he was there with me and it really helped. I also started questioning my spirituality...bad move, this is when you need it the most. If your religious at all you might want to check out this book at the link below. God bless and time will take the edge off....

Answer 3

So sorry for your loss. Everyone copes with grief in different ways. It may help you to talk about him with friends and family. If you are religious the church is a good source of strength. Think about the times that you shared with your father. It is also good to remember that your father will always be with you and he would not want to suffer in missing him. Take the time that you need do not rush the healing process. You must heal in your own time. I want to be honest with you. Time does not take the pain away. It will always hurt but over time you will have the strength to deal will the pain and the good times that you shared with your father will help dull the ache of losing him. Good Luck and take care.

Answer 4

I am so sorry for your loss.
Unfortunately, time is the only thing that will heal.
U will never get over it, but u will learn to cope with it.
Talk to family and friends about it and take plenty of time to grieve. Nobody knows what ur feeling but u, unless u have a friend or something who has suffered the same kind of loss. In this case, talking to them will help u because they can associate and tell u what ur feeling is normal.
If u have a terribly hard time and just dont seem to be getting any better, then maybe u should seek counciling. Dont be afraid to do that.
I am truly sorry again for your loss.

Answer 5

So sorry to hear that. I still have both parents alive. My father is in poor health as he has frontal temporal dementia and has great difficulties performing easy tasks and doesn't speak.

My brothe rpassed away at the age of 21 when I was 19. Now 33. I went through a rough time as he went from a strapping young fit lad to a weak, thin person. He died from cancer and was so very brave.

He never complained all through his illness. He just said to my mother that he was dealt a bad card. I found that time is a great healer. Talk about your father to good friends & close family members. Remember him in the good days and treasure the memories.

Don't bottle your feeling up. Be confident and strong for your family. Grieving does take time and there are stages that you go through. Read about it online. I was angry at first. Try and be calm and talk to a religious person/priest as they will offer comfort.

Answer 6

I am dreading the day my dad dies even though he's a very old guy now and has given us time to get used to the idea that he's not going to be around always. I alwyas find writing helps me, my current feelings, things I remember good and bad and boring, what the best thing I have to say (think) about someone, what I hope that person has gone on to now, etc. I know there are grief support groups that probably have lots of way to help you get through this hard time--ask your doctor if she/he can recommend some, if you work see if your work has help groups available or counselors, ask at your church/synagog/temple/ mosque/etc. And allow yourself to be selfish and grieve.

Answer 7

My boys ages at the time lost their Dad at age 13/15/18/19 just one year ago on the 15th of this month, I am their mom.
Greif comes in different stages from anger/stress/hurt/crying/gambling/sex/acting weird.
Greif of a loved one is one of the top 3 stresses in life, I would have to say talk with your friends call them up when your down and talk about whatever, you will hurt it is natural.
Its hard to tell someone how to cope with greif, everyone is different, we all do it in our own ways. But you must keep busy so you do not get to depressed, there are also 800 numbers in your phone book to get counsling services and support groups with others in your situation ok. Things sould get better luv

Answer 8

Please go get grief councelling, you may think that you dont need it and that you can deal but it is better to start right away expecially if you are having trouble coping. Talking with someone close always helps, but if you cant talk you need the councelling, my son is in grief councelling because he keeps everything bottled up inside and this is not good for anyone. Please try the councelling i can not stress this enough. If you need someone to talk too but dont feel comfortable talking to those you know this is your best bet. I promise it cant hurt. And I feel very sorry for your loss, but you must try to go on your dad would want you too. good luck

Answer 9

I'm so very sorry about your dad. When my mom died, this is what helped me. I didn't try to "cope" with the grief, or to struggle with it, or to run away from it or make it go away. Instead, I just accepted the grief and ran toward it, so to speak. In other words, I just lived in it and kept telling myself when I felt so horrible: "you're in grief, and these feelings are normal. They are a way of honoring mom."

I did feel very depressed after she died. Several friends suggested that I take medication. I replied: "We are supposed to mourn when someone we love dies. We're not supposed to medicate these feelings to try to make them go away." (UNless of course, someone becomes unable to function -- that is a different level of depression).

Because I believe in God, every day I just asked God to be with me in the blackness and darkness and sorrow that I felt. I didn't ask Him to take it away or make it hurt less, because I knew there wasn't a way for that to happen. I just asked Him to please be with me in my sorrow, and somehow that comforted me. I don't know if that might help you, too.

I also found the groww.org website very helpful -- there are live chats where you can talk to other people who have lost a parent. That really consoled me, too.

The very best to you, and God bless.

Answer 10

Morn your fathers death and remember he is with Jesus. We are all going to go someday and its the people we leave behind that hurt. Cry, laugh, look at photo's and videos of him. Remember his at his best. When his death anniversary comes around don't be in dispare but celebrate his life in doing something that he liked to do. I had a small photo blown up to a 5x7 and it sits in my den with others in the family that have gone on to heaven. I get peace going into that room. Continue to teach the younger generations in your family what he has taught you. If you have or now or later your own children share your stories with them. I am sorry for your loss, and I know how you feel now. Be strong because life has to go on. I will pray for you tonight for strength and I hope my dad meets yours and takes him by the hand. For where ever your dad is there is no suffering. God bless you and your family