if you fight someone alot bigger than you, but lose with pride is that respectful?

Answer 1

yes, it is respectable.

I've been teaching for many years. I've said this more than once and try to instill it in my students. My hope is that you would never fight. I hope that you would learn enough and train enough that you could walk away, take an insult, and not have it harm you. However, that being said. If walking away means you will be wounding yourself, then stand and fight. Bruises heal, cuts can be stitched, and bones can be mended. Physical ailments don't last for long, but wounds to the heart, to your mind, and your spirit. Can take years to recover if they ever do. More men today suffer from this than we believe. Look around, every guy that can't seem to keep it together for his family, every father that can't seem to "be there" for his kids. Every "poser" who pretends to be "hard." Every fake who thinks a woman is the end all be all and judges his identity as a man, by the girl on his arm. The list goes on and on.. but they all have one thing in common. They don't know that they have what it takes.. Push comes to shove, they cower back, they quit. They give up before it's even begun.

Walking away has to be a choice. Let's say that you were the baddest mofo around and some little kid comes up to you and pushes his luck.. Your bigger, faster, stronger, and better. He talks the talk then just wails off and hits you, and does it again, and again, and again. Eventually he draws blood and your pissed. When you make the decision not to fight.. that was a choice. Now lets say it was reversed, and the bigger, faster, stronger, better guy is hitting you. When you "don't fight" because you've just about pissed yourself.. that's anything but a choice.. you're a slave to fear at that point.. and as such.. well we already discussed where that takes you.

The fact that you did engage when you probably knew you would lose, that you didn't give in to that "why try" conviction. That means you did win the battle with yourself. That is both respectable and deserves respect.

Again, my hope is that you will get to the point where you can "not" fight and still keep yourself in tact.

And for the record the "fighting for any reason is wrong" routine is an american feminist view that is supported by the guys we discussed above. Sorry if that offended a few.. if it did, then don't look at me, look at why it was offensive to you?? A martial art is by it's very nature a belief that fighting has merit. There is a time and place for all things.. and yes, even war and death. The challenge is to learn the discernent of when is the time and when is the place.. and the answer is far from Never...

Answer 2

1.) If you are in a fight and walk away from it afterwards, you won in the only sense that matters.

on the other hand....

2.) Second place is the first looser.

Pride is a facet of ego. Its not a 'real' thing, but a psychological consequence of being human. It doesn't have anything to do with winning or loosing really. Rather, its a lens through which we interpret what winning and loosing mean and an influence on how we handle winning and loosing, however we define it.

Fine line the ego draws between pride/confidence and humility/being a doormat. Pride isn't good nor is being a doormat. Confidence and humility are good things that inspire respect from and toward others respectively.

Answer 3

i'm 6'4, and ver 300 lbs. i've been beaten by guys bigger and smaller than me, and i've beaten guys bigger and smaller than me. it really depends on the person you're fighting. wining is wining, losing is another thing. everyone i've ever fought [i hate fighting] i have always treated them with respect. if you adn me got into it and i beat you. i would pick you up off the ground, try to shake your hand and become a friend. however is i was a jerk i could just go on and spit on you and treat you horribly wich would effect your pride. however the way you act has a lot to do with it. if you're humble enough to say yes i was beaten but didn't whine about it and show honor no matter what you still have your pride

Answer 4

In ring? Yes. I'm 130 lbs so I often got thrown in with someone who is 145 to 150 lbs. My record is 3-2. When I lose, I seems to get lot more fans than the winner. I guess that's because I keep on fight and push forward really hard even if I'm losing and that really earn fans respect. They want a good exiciting fighting that show a lot of heart, so if you know how to get fans on your side, you're gonna to get a lot of respects even if you lose.

Answer 5

Fighting in any way, shape or form is neither "respectful" nor respectable!

Sparring is quite a different story!

LEARN THE DIFFERENCE!
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Answer 6

If you fought well and didn't cry like a beeotch afterward, nobody can call you a punk. You took it like a man, but why were you scrappin' anyway? There's better ways to solve problems.

Answer 7

Losing with "Pride" is not the same as losing with "Honor"

Answer 8

making someone else lose their pride would be a shame

Answer 9

If you loose to somebody as long as you dont give up or run away it is an honorable defeat

Answer 10

its better to lose with pride than to win cheating... beleive me i kno wat i'm talkin about. 3rd degree black belt in Chinese martial arts.... China Town NYC. i didn't just get 2 where i am by winning evey fight. i lost some & won some.... itz all sth dat we gotta face dumtime.