If these 'expert' females are so good at defining what "mental/emotional" abuse is, why do they allow ??

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themselves to fall into those type relationships?

Turn on a tv talk show, read a womans magazine, the local newspapers feature articles on the problem all of the time!

But it just gets me how foolish some of these women are. And some have been around ; they are much older than I am. They have certainly had time to make critical decisions about issues concerning their OWN LIVES!
Where's your self-esteem? Why do you need a man to "define" you anyway.? And why oh why do you allow a man, a so-called man, a dirtbag in most instances, to exert the audacity to abuse you at all? Does it make you feel loved? needed? important? Do you secretly embrace the idea of being "controlled?"

I just can/'t understand why a woman allows a man to abuse her, either physically or emotionally.

I am 24 and my mother taught me well.

Answer 1

You said it...your mother taught you well. Some women don't
have good relationships with their parents. And were never
taught anything. And they go out into the world..not knowing
what to look out for,..becuase they don't have that knowledge.
They will latch onto a guy who will give them any attention...
becuase they recieved none anywhere else. As for the girls
who are "educated" on this subject...even they can be made
to feel less than. Some guys are great manipulators. And a
guy does this slowly..over time..so that she is afraid to leave
and afraid to stay. It becomes a "stockholm syndrome". The
abuse is usually not a daily event...There are many bright and
intelligent women who get involved in these situations. It's
far more intricate than I can explain here. But don't judge these
women..pity them. Have some compassion, that is what they
really need the most.

Answer 2

First of all I want to say you say like a great guy. Maybe I should've met you. LOL single? if so [e-mail] to answer your question though I myself don't understand why a woman would allow a man to treat her like that. I guess some women like it. I was in relationship like that and got out of it. I know from experience it ain't easy, but women are strong and if they really wanted out they could out. My best friend was murdered trying to help his sister leave her abusive husband. My heart goes to out victims of domestic crime. I feel the same about it as you do and if there are any women reading this that are currently in an abusive relationship trust me when I say it only gets worse. No matter how many times they say sorry. If you need help out I can help.

Answer 3

Very well stated. I understand how you feel. I feel sorry for women who are abused. If they choose to stay and let the abuse continue it is hard to understand. I would never take abuse from anyone, no one is worth it. I will be treated with respect or not at all. My daughter is already learning her self worth. I will not allow her to grow up thinking she needs a man at any cost.The biggest problem with women who stay in abusive relationships is that they are lacking self worth.

Answer 4

I do NOT embrace the idea of being controlled by ANYONE as I am the one to call the shots in my life for one, and secondly I also don;'t talk about people as though they are dirtbags or dogs....for to do that it requires NO education which I have & statisticly your data on the subject of abuse although not limited needs a quick going over. Do this survey here and see the serious replies y uget. i feel that you are sincere, yo uhave all the right answers....and that you are actually just tipping over an apple cart here. Good luck...i will definitely look back and see how many people answered.NO ONE abuses me.UNLESS I let them. But...That is ME.....and you????

Answer 5

The women who do this usually grew up with abusive fathers, but couldn't do anything about it because they felt like it would be insubordination from a child. These feelings carry over into their future relationships with men, and can only be cured through serious therapy.

Answer 6

Excellent question! It's easier to give advice than it is to take advice. They seem to have all kinds of excuses why they stay. IE; He didn't mean it, He promised he'll change, I'm sure you know the other excuses. I think they stay because they are afraid to be alone. There are some pretty dumb women out there, too, that actually believe the abuser will change.

"The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior".
"You teach people how to treat you"
Dr. Phil

Answer 7

Those aren't the experts. I am more the expert, the one who was in the abusive relationship, dumped his *** and now has a great marriage with a cool, great guy.

Answer 8

in my opinion, it is human instinct.... they can't help themselves, they want to be with the strongest guy, naturally.....