I met someone online recently. We like each other a lot. He expressed an interest in dating me. Initially I accepted, but soon after we both decided to take more time to decide since we hadn't met in person yet.
Things continued fine - he was witty, charming and kept up "the chase". At the beginning, I had my reservations about dating him, but I've come to realize that it's best to give things a chance and see what comes out of it.
Since about a week ago, he's become distant and withdrawn. He isn't trying to "woo" me anymore. It may seem like he's trying to do the opposite. Could he have changed his mind, the way I've changed mine?
We are meeting in person next week for the first time. I want to tell him that I'm keen on dating him too, but with his recent behaviour, I'm not sure what to do! I think he is also worried whether the relationship will be successful or not because of certain issues (such as race etc).
I'd be grateful for any constructive feedback. Thanks!
2007-02-17 12:35:49 · 12 answers · asked by Misanthropic MeL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're both jumping the gun and putting way too much pressure on yourselves. It's easy to go farther online than you would if you were dating in person. Go ahead and meet him, but you don't have to decide if you are both going to date before you even meet him in person. Just meet, and see if there's any chemistry. Maybe there will be sparks, maybe not. Maybe you'll be friends, not anything more. But don't overanalyze and go too far before you've ever met in person.
2007-02-17 12:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by Liza 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is his busy time at work. Unfortunately, it's hit right at the beginning of your relationship, which as you say is normally the romantic cutsey stage. He's still apparently interested because he does want to go away for a full week next month. I say give him and the relationship a chance. If he's still acting like this once his busy time is over, talk with him then to find out what's going on.
2016-05-24 00:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go ahead and meet him but play it by ear. I mean, people can seem a lot different online than when you actually meet them face to face. For example, when you're on the computer, you can delete stupid stuff you say before you send it out. He could also maybe have a friend sitting there at the computer helping him out with what to say. I'd wait to meet him before getting my hopes too high or wearing my heart out on my sleeve. If it's meant to be, it will happen regardless of his strange behavior online. You never know what he could be going through. Maybe he's just really nervous now that he realizes he's going to actually meet you in person. Good luck and have fun.
2007-02-17 12:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just got out of a problemlike that. first off try to confront him and see what he says maybe he's a little hesitant to meeting you because you all met over the internet. that happened to me the boi was all for dating me but then he started acting totally different when i confronted him acted all closed up about just ask him if he'ss alright with meeting you if not then he's not worth the time or trouble believeme
2007-02-17 12:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by gellisa m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His recent behavior is very important and needs to be well thought out before even meeting him - Your worry's are well and to be noticed - Don't make excuses for his behavior - If you do meet him have plenty of friend's with you - The RED light's are already showing - Be careful in the choice you make -
2007-02-17 12:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do meet with him, be friendly and smile. Bring up subjects to talk about, but best not to pry or try to get an answer about how he feels. Enjoy your meeting with him. Either he cares about you, but is confused, or he's having second thoughts. By meeting him in person, you should be able to understand more.
2007-02-17 12:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, It sounds like he is a little scared because you will be meeting face to face next week. If you like him keep your appointment with him and see how things work out. A Friend.
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2007-02-17 12:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting people online does not show anyone's true colors. He might be somebody totally different they you know him to be. Be careful. Online dating is not the same as Reality dating. Stick to reality and off cyberspace.
2007-02-17 12:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When conversing on the internet, you often dont get a full perspective of what the person is about. You will be able to know more about him when you meet and talk. Don't get ahead of yourself, take your time, and above all, take care and be careful....
2007-02-17 12:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by Michael T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't talk to him,, best to move on and be with your friends independantly for a while
2007-02-17 12:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋