A best friend and I have had a few problems lately, particularly because I am somewhat insecure with the friendship. Now generally, I don't care what people think of me because I know who God has called me to be. However, I DO cherish what my best friends think about certain things, because, well... they're my best friends.
I talked to him about our friendship yesterday and asked: "How do I know that you really do care?" He gave me a very legit answer; at the end of the conversation, though, he challenged me with the question, "Does it really matter?" He also proposed the idea that what people say about you should not matter AT ALL, whether it be good or bad. For some reason, I have a problem with that because I feel like his reasoning is wrong.
He also went on saying that since what people say really doesn't matter, he could live without friends as a Christian. I am not sure how this is possible, but help would be great. Bible verses would be great as well. Thanks!
2007-02-17 12:31:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
lisa m - I am a true Christian. And I have prayed about it... and I know that the Devil is trying to ruin this relationship. I am just wondering if that's a Biblically-supported mindset.Thank you for your feedback on that so far.
lizzardmama - That is a very good way of thinking about things. Sometimes, I do care too much about what others think, but God has been trying to teach me how to make that transition to not really caring so much about what people in general say. If anything, I try to guard my heart and care about what my best friends, mentors, and close family say... I will try not to let it consume me. Thank you.
For everyone else that has responded so far, thank you very much.
2007-02-17 12:44:52 · update #1
Think about Jesus and His life. Out of all people, why would God Incarnate need friends? He is self-sufficient.
Nevertheless, He chose to have a bunch of close people with Him. He was all about building relationships with people. Even the Ten Commandments are about relationships. The first four are about our relationship with God, and the last six are about our relationships with each other.
God is concerned about having a relationship with Him, and also about our relationships with others. You cannot be a Lone Ranger Christian. Fellowship is essential.
2007-02-17 12:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I'm not going to write a bible verse, but I can tell you that in a certain way your friend is right. No matter what people think of you or say about you should not bother you because you are who you are and if the person is a friend... a real friend, his love for you should be unconditionnal. The point also is to accept one another as you are and not judge, therefore insecurity sometimes makes us seek approval of what we do or say.
Friends are gifts from God who are in our life for a reason and it is worth trying to know them and understand their ways although we are not always of the same opinion. The saying " We agree to dissagree" is a good exemple of harmony through differences.
Friends are important in our life to share whatever we have to share because everyone is unique and can learn from other's experiences... That's why the different organizations are so popular. Prayer groups, A.A. meetings, workshops, conferences, etc...
2007-02-17 12:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First i prefer to sparkling the idea about dancing .... i'm a Muslim female and that i grow to be gymnastic i ended because i harm my knee... you need to do what ever you want on your existence ... you are able to in trouble-free terms end dancing in public in case you position on a cover ...yet continually you are able to dance on my own ( that is is you've been Muslim and also you position a cover on your head ) i imagine all religions have an similar message it is the solid treatment with others... to be an effective individual and believing in the single god who watch anybody... and that i imagine this proverb is a precis of each and each and every of the religions ( whats is going round comes round ) so shall we or not that is solid to receive the solid issues too .. ultimately my maximum ideal pal is a Christian and that i evaluate her as a sister ,,, so particular ya you'll properly be associates :) maximum ideal needs
2016-12-04 07:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't add any more Bible verses to the ones other people have already quoted to you, but just wanted to say that I know how much it hurts when your friend acts strangely when you are needing reassurance....
God knows that we need to encourage and support one another as Christians, but He does also promise to be our very best Friend through His Spirit. Keep asking Jesus to fill you with the Holy Spirit and reveal more of His character to you, and you will become more secure and at peace.
2007-02-17 12:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by jill_vic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Christian life calls us not to rules, but to relationships- first with God and then with each other. We can't become what God has called us to be without becoming involved in the lives of others, and allowing others to become involved in our lives too. What people think of us DOES matter- at least to a point. If you think poorly of me, then as a Christian, I have lost the influence in your life that God would call me to. It's about guarding your testimony. It shouldn't consume you, but it does matter.
2007-02-17 12:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeesh! What's the point of God giving you life if you give up the wonderful things about living (like friends, etc.) in order to "serve" God?
On the other hand, you seem to be being a little dramatic about this. Chill.
2007-02-17 12:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people have no friends. It's usually not by choice, it's just that some people are not liked by others or they have no social skills. I don't see what this has to do with being a Christian.
2007-02-17 12:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We shouldn't forsake the assembling of ourselves together. And as iron sharpens iron... . Remove the log from your own eye before you point out the mote in your friends eye.
Generally these say we should have fellowship with others. This way we can keep each other accountable.
2007-02-17 12:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by RB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a good friend will bring accountability to each other.
Jesus called the disciples out in twos, this protected each other and held accountability for the other.
Good friendships aren't just needed, in this day of age, this should be required.
2007-02-17 12:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by n9wff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Herbert 1:1 Get ye out and make some friends, lay the book down and go out to play.
2007-02-17 12:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by tattie_herbert 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋