2007-02-17 12:29:08 · 16 answers · asked by Leslie L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. It is very disrespectful and morally wrong.
2007-02-17 12:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Lila 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Come on now, it's a lapdance. Is it really that big of a deal? Did you know he was going to the strip club? Did he pay for the lapdance, or did his buddies get it for him? Does he go to strip clubs often, or was this a boys night out that went a little further than most do?
If his was a one time/ very rarely happens sort of thing, I would drop it. Seems like a whole lot of nothing to get worked up about.
2007-02-17 12:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok first men are pigs, but the woman being PAID to giver your boyfriend a lapdance was not coming on to him she was paid to dance for him. Second all it is is harmless fantasy. You need to just sit down and talk to him and get his point of view, if it is more than just a passing fling you two can work it out.
2007-02-17 12:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by Desirae B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why does he have to go to a strip club and get a lap dance when he has you? Seems to me that's the kind of thing he'd want to do with his honey. Four months is not a long time but it's long enough for him not to do something like that when he's seeing someone. I think he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He has a girlfriend but he wants to be free to sample whatever else might be out there.
Obviously this bothers you. You need to tell him that. Tell him that you want to be the only one dances in his lap. If that's not enough for him then dump him like a sack of rotten potatoes and move on. I bet you do a mean lap dance and I'm sure there's someone out there who would love to have as their one and only. Good luck to you
2007-02-17 12:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel threatened by him gettng lapdances, then yes, you are justified. However, you need to build trust and communication in your relationship and you need to understand the other persons feelings. It sounds like you are not there yet...Talk to him about it.
2007-02-17 12:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by C. A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GROW UP, do you know how much a lap dance cost? Believe you me, that woman has no interest in your man. She only wants his money. And if it bothers you that much why don't you spice thing up in your relationship and give him a lap-dance yourself. Set up your living room with color lights put a strightback chair in the middle of the floor, and you be the stripper. Have him pay you for the dance. If he can pay a stranger then he can pay you. THAT IS IF IT BROTHERS YOU THAT MUCH.
2007-02-17 12:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by toni stark 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah. Now before I get yelled at, let me explain.
You found out about it! If there were things that he was doing that he didn't want you to know about, you probably wouldn't know. A guy is ALWAYS going to look. You look at other men. Don't lie girl! He aint here.
Tell him next time he goes to let you know, or go with him. Or, better yet, you do the lap dance for him!! WoooHoooo... Go girl!
2007-02-17 12:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on circumstances?sounds like no trust my dear, not a good thing to have so early in a relationship,if you trust and love him, i can understand a little disgust but being mad no,men are men,its pro bally something he always wanted to try and will pro bally will never do it again, you ever see those dancers at a strip club?not something you want to bring home or have a relationship with,quit worry about the small stuff and focus on the bigger picture, otherwise lighten up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-17 12:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse you are..wether he knew or not if it would upset you...a person that is in a relationship should not be going to places like that on the first place.
You should talk to him..and tell him why he went there..give him an other chance..but if he does it again..you should look for someone else...
2007-02-17 12:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes! My boyfriend goes to strip clubs and I tell him he is not allowed to get a lap dance. I consider it cheating. Tell him if he doesnt stop, you will go and get a male lap dance! Then see what he says.....
2007-02-17 12:32:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of him. He's a typical worm. However old you are, the years go by too quickly to waste them on men who are totally unqualified and will never go anywhere. Weed him out.
2007-02-17 12:31:19 · answer #11 · answered by Joseph C 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋