My best friend is getting married in June of 2008, I am getting married in August of 2007, before her. She started planning her wedding before I knew I was getting married. She said she wanted her colors to be in the coral family thus I can not choose, coral, peach, orange ...any colors remotely similar to hers. I told her I felt she was ridiculous because she is not sure of what color she would need and I knew what color I wanted, peach. She immediately got upset and told me it was unfair for me to choose that color. I ended up changing my color to a shade of blue to avoid any further discussions but I just wanted to know if I was wrong.
2007-02-17 12:25:10 · 22 answers · asked by sjlova86 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
it should not matter what colours you use...if my best friend started planning her wedding now, and wanted to use blue, i wouldn't tell her she can't just because i am. your friend was acting very childish. persoanlly, i think having similar colours for both of your weddings is cute! it shows how similar you are! i wouldn't mind my best friend using any shade of blue, just as i know she wouldn't if she'd started planning before me. this is especially true, since you're getting married first. stickt to whatever colour you want!! it's your wedding!! and she'll probably realize how ridiculous she's being afterwards.
2007-02-18 12:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by Duelen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is being totally ridiculous. MAYBE she would be justified in being upset if she knew what color she wanted and you also picked that color, but it sounds like she has laid claim to several different ones and has not decided on one.
Weddings are mostly very similar and there are thousands of other couples who have had the exact same wedding as hers BEFORE her. If she has a problem with copy-cats then she should wear a magenta wedding dress and make her wedding cake out of dog turds.
2007-02-17 12:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by BLANK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a good friend who did what she had to do to preserve the peace.
I personally think your friend is being ridiculous -- I mean your weddings are 10 months apart! Even if the weddings were a week apart, it shouldn't matter whether or not you have the same colors. You'd better start blocking out baby names before she chooses them all -- just kidding!
Anyway, you obviously didn't want to battle over this and that is respectable.
2007-02-17 12:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by Liza 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be arguing over the colors in a wedding, it's just not worth it!!! Just get the color that you really want and stop worrying about whether she decides on a similar color. Like they say, "Don't sweat the small stuff", life is to short.
2007-02-17 12:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Faith 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont know, I've seen many questions in here with the reverse of your problem (someone choosing their colors or theme) and people say that they are right to want their day to be unique and special.
All I can say is this, my best friend was married this past summer and she used the personalized M&ms for her favors. I am having a 10th anniversary reception and my husband and I have been discussing our favors. He suggested the M&ms because he really liked that favor and I said no way since it was what my BF had used. I wouldnt want to repeat something like that. Take from that what you will, but I kind of think your friend was in the right. She chose her color scheme and told you well in advance of your engagement that was what she wanted, and then you went ahead and chose a color from her hues. I think I would be a little ticked off too if I were her.
2007-02-17 13:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
no you are not wrong. what happens if she don't get married next year or next she find some different color she like. don't settle for a different color if you want peach use peach. (your weddings are a year about who really going to remember anyway)
2007-02-17 12:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by techgirl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is being petty. I'm no expert on wedding ettiquet, but I don't understand how it would be unfair to her for you to choose peach. Your wedding is one of the most important events in your life. The decision about what to wear should be between you and your fiance.
2007-02-17 12:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by lj1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding are over a year apart - she is being silly. It shouldnt matter and you should get to have the colors you want at your own wedding! No-one is even going to notice w over a year between them!
2007-02-17 14:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty childish for her to say that. She doesn't own coral colours. If you want peach you should be able to. Your wedding day is going to be different from hers, regardless of the colours because of your personalities.
She sounds pretty selfish and shallow.
2007-02-17 12:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You (hopefully) only get married once. You choose the color you want and stick with it. Just because your friend is having similar colors, the dresses, cake and decorations won't be like yours.
Enjoy your day and follow your heart. I most definetely WOULD NOT change my colors because of my friend.
2007-02-17 12:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by freckles1063 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋