I have been single for two months now, and I get hit on all the time, but I would realy like to go on a date or something I am really bored. I am always told by the guys I have gone out with that I am imtimadating because I know what I want. So want can I do to be less intimadating. Also, what can I do to meet guys or what can I do so I am not bored.
2007-02-17 12:21:50 · 25 answers · asked by blackglitter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you ask the guy that you're interested in out? Don't just sit on the sidelines and wait for someone to come along...go after what you want!
2007-02-17 12:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by Lila 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That means from a man is maybe you talk too much. Try this, the next time you are out, let the dude talk. Dont be so in a hurry to tell him things. Let him lead the conversation and he will come after you with more aggression. My favorite place to go to meet people is the sports bar. A place that has food but has a bar with a DJ. That is the place guys go to relax/release and unwind cause we dont want to be alone or home alone. Trust me when I say nothings wrong with a woman making the first move in that type of place. Its called meeting then.
2007-02-17 20:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by splash27401 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, your attitude towards others will reflect itself on your behavior. For instance,if you are sceptic about the guys and you don't trust them, you will come accross as an investigative type. This will be somewhat intimidating especialilly if your asking questions all the time or if you act in disbelief.
Try to look a bit more naive and give the guys the benefit of the doubt.
You may very well be much more perceptive than the average
girl but if you put guys on the defencive with your questioning, you will scare them away.
2007-02-17 20:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by l r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for guys who also know what they want. Also try not to drop all of your expectations on a person to soon. Take the first few dates just to have fun and feel them out. Turn the tables. You be the one evaluating these guys and doing the picking and choosing. Put yourself in places where you would like to be. If you are meeting guys in night clubs, for instance, but want to be the girl whose man takes her to the nice restaurant down the street. Don't go to the night clubs, go to the restaurant and have a drink or two there. Or if you are into books, hang out at the book store. Hang out in places where you are more likely to find a guy who meets your interest.
2007-02-17 20:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by t2ensie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered the question yourself. You have only been single for two months. If you were with your ex for a long period of time you may be used to his style or his methods. It is not that you are intimidating it may be that your ex has either set the bar for what you look for in men or perhaps it taught you what you aren't looking for. Maybe you should change you normal social patterns. Try different clubs or social hang-outs to meet different guys. That and give it time. If you are just starting out what is your rush. Perhaps you may not be intimidating if you ask out a guy. Girls who are afraid to ask out guys fear their fragile self-esteem from being hurt. Social norms dictate that girls who are above average in looks can have a increase fragility when it comes to self esteem and being turned down. My advise go out there and get your groove on let the chips fall where they may. Besides spring fever is about to hit and your in the best position.
2007-02-17 20:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by GoodWillHunt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ahve to know first that you are not looking for love! then, never share your personal stories with men at all! Get all the info from them about them as much as possible,only if you are not feeling for them. You don't ever want to talk alot on a date. Be very leaniate with a guy. Don't show to much likeness. Have fun and don't be so scare to talk. You shouldso a girl talk on the phone to ge tinfo from another chic. Guys are watching!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-17 20:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by sexifemme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing what you want can be mistaken for bitchy. You have to accept the fact that there are times that you may not get what you want, but look at what you were given. Sometimes soemeon may go out of their way to get you something that may be significant to them.
Why not ask a guy out on a date? I think it would be really awesome if a girl asked me out rather than have to wait for me to ask them out. It you know what you want, a date, then go get one.
2007-02-17 20:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about being less intimidating . . . those boys are just that, boys (immature). It's GOOD that you know what you want, etc.
If you see a guy you like, you ask him out or make sure he knows that you're interested in him and make a move or whatever. That way you won't get hit on by boys that're essentially wasting your time.
That's my opinion . . . good luck and have fun!!
2007-02-17 20:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to change who you are to get a guy to like you. If you know what you want and guys are intimidated by that then that's their problem. You just need to find a guy who's confident enough himself to respect that you know what you want and not be intimidated by it. As for being hit on, well flirt back and someone might ask you out. Failing that, flirt back and then ask them out if you think you like them.
2007-02-17 20:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what is it that your looking for in the men you go out with. I mean your bored but like what do you want?
2007-02-17 20:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by tr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋