So my mom and dad have been together for 12 years now, and today is my birthday. So my mom thought at my step-sister's track meet, she thought her friends were giving her dirty looks, when they weren't. She was acting weird, I think she was drunk. My mom was (maybe is) an acholic, and has been to jail twice and rehab twice in the past 3 years. So my older sister and her boyfriend stole some of his (my sister's bf's) mom's purses. So my sister went kinda wacko. And that is when this started. My mom went wacko too. So she is saying, "You can't share your father! Your sister is jealous that I am with your father!" And such, I know my sister is fine with it, and she says she wouldn't want her mom and our dad to ever get back together in the first place. My mom is acting drunk, and we are thinking she is. She is blaming everything on my step sister's mom. Why they argue, etc. Sometimes it's true, other times it isn't. I am worried, my mom took off today, and wants to go to Georgia.
2007-02-17 12:13:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She keeps saying, "Your sister won. I am going to Georgia with my sister, I give up." What could we do to get these nasty things out of her mind?!?! My step sister said, "I think this is sad. I can share my father!" My mom just kept blabing on about his ex-wife, when my mom had 2 other men before my father. What is wrong with her? I hate to think of her like this, but she is crazy. What is wrong with her and how do we get this outta her head? Most of all, How do we get her better?
2007-02-17 12:16:07 · update #1
You cannot reason with someone who is drinking. Don't even try.
There is nothing you can do. She has to want to help herself. Just make sure you notice how drunks act so you will never want to be a drinker or drug user. They are foolish idiots who hurt the people around them.
2007-02-17 14:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Asking for help is the first step. If you are twelve, maybe talk to a school councelor or your father. You need to get some councelling of some sort for the family. Split families are always tough. Your mom needs to be stronger then this and set a better example. Do get some help though from a professional. Best of luck to you and hang in there...
2007-02-17 12:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by C. A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face some realities, it will help you a lot.
(My father was an Alcoholic, and we suffered a lot from his illness, though we loved him a lot.)
You can do absolutely nothing to change or control your Mother.
You also cannot control her drinking, and you should not concern yourself with it, aside from never getting in a car with her, if she's driving drunk. It is a waste of your emotions and energy, which all should be directed at your life only.
Alcoholics (and that's what they are), don't want to be that way, but they can't control themselves, and often, they have no idea that their loved ones around them are suffering from their drinking, either.
Get help for yourself (your Mom is not a person you can help--only she can help herself).
Find a listing for Alcoholics Anonymous, call them, and ask about
"Al-Ateen" meetings, for children of alcholics. They will give you plenty of information and help for your situation.
But YOU are most important---take care of yourself, and DON'T take on adult burdens in your family---if you do, they will destroy you. Leave these problems to the adults!
2007-02-17 12:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing for your Mom to do is stop drinking and get over it. She is an adult not a kid but she's acting like one. SHe should be ashame of what's she's doing. Well if she goes let her. She will be back because an alcoholic needs money. So if your sister is ok with it don't worry it's your Mom's fault.
2007-02-17 12:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once an alcoholic, always, whether the person still drinks or not. she is not able to be helped by you or anyone else but herself.
if you must, get some counseling for yourself and sister, if she's willing, and go it on your own steam. work to the better you and don't try to fix Mom. she has to do it herself.
2007-02-17 12:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by blueJean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only person who can help your mom is your mom. it seems like your mom wants our of the marriage and she is blaming everyone for her problems but her. the only thing you can do is be there if she needs you. the drinking you can never stop, only she can do that. be strong and keep your head up.
2007-02-17 12:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by toni stark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your moms drinking may have been her self medicating her anxiety She needs a good psychiatrist
2007-02-17 12:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and i thought my family had issues
2007-02-17 12:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋