I don't want to wear makeup!!!!?

Question

I am 13 years old and my mom thinks I need to wear makeup! I keep telling her that I don't want to wear it, but she is constantly telling me to put on some blush, or lipstick. Its driving me crazy and it makes me feel bad, like I really, really need makeup to not scare anyone...ya know.

So how can I explain to her politely that I think I look ok and that her telling me to wear makeup makes me feel bad??

Answer 1

I had a roommate whose mother and grandmother were like that. They said "an unmade face is like an unmade bed". It has nothing to do with how pretty you are (or aren't), its just what you have to do every day (her grandmother slept in a little too).
In your case I suggest you don't wear make-up and refuse to talk about it with her. In fact say to her this is a non-issue, I won't discuss it, I won't wear make-up and I won't argue with you about it. Parents get on their kids about not studying, not cleaning up their room, not bathing and loads of other things. Your mother should not get on your case about not wearing make-up.

Answer 2

I'm almost 40 and I only wear makeup on special occaisions, like when I got married. I never had problems with pimples or breakouts. At 40 years old, I get mistaken for a lot younger all the time, and I don't have to spend a fortune on makeup.

I know it's hard to stand up to your Mom, but no one, no matter who, should try to make you do something you don't want to do. If you can, sit down and tell her how you feel...about the makeup and about her insisting you wear it. If you don't think you can talk to her, maybe you can enlist a teacher or counselor, or an older family member like an aunt or grandmother to help.

Answer 3

my mom is the same way! I'm 15 and never wear any makeup, i think my om gave up on making me wear it daily, but she still won't let me go anywhere semi-formal or formal with out it and always tells me to wear it when I have a zit. It makes me feel like she thinks I'm ugly, and it really hurts. I understand completely.
Next time your mom tells you that you need makeup tell her that you like the way you look without it and that when she tries to make you wear it make you feel like she thinks your ugly. Explain to her that you simply don't like make up and aren't going wear any. If she tries to make you wear it again tell her the same thing until she leaves you alone. She was probably hoping that she would get to show you how to put makeup on like her mother showed her, she wanted it to be a bonding experience. Tell her that there are other girl bonding experiences, such as your first boyfriend that you can share together (if you haven't yet)

Answer 4

Wow! Usually parents don't want their children to wear makeup until they're 18 or so!

Does your mom wear a lot of makeup? Does she think everyone needs to?

Next time she says something, say "Mom, thank you for your suggestions, but I feel better not wearing make up. Now, would you like to watch a movie?"

Answer 5

Don't take your mom's words as an insult to your looks. Trust me on this, she just probably wants you to act more "feminine" in her eyes, or she feels that if you get an interest in it, it will be a fun way to bond with you. My mother was the same way with me, but she never pressured me to wear it; it was my decision, just like it should be for you. You can tell your mom that it is your decision that you're not interested in wearing any. Find something you are both interested in (and it doesn't have to be about just looks or fashion, about anything), and bond over that.

Answer 6

Wow, you're lucky, girl! Not a lot of parents actually beg their children to put on makeup. Your mom must be pretty fashionable. Just tell her if she really respects you and your opinions, she would understand that you don't want to wear makeup at this time.

Answer 7

wow that's weird. I mean my mom finally got used to me wearing makeup at 15 (took her three whole years). but hey, if you don't want to wear makeup then good for you! i mean, to feel comfortable with the way you look is something great and you should be SO proud of it. Specially in a time where nobody is happy with the way they look (our insane society). so tell that to your mom, and tell her you appreciate her concern, but you'd rather save makeup for..special occasions? she'll understand. i mean she won't FORCE u into wearing makeup. and once again...good for you! if shes not proud of you, i sure am haha

Answer 8

I can't believe that your own mother's trying to convince you to wear make up. I wanted to wear make up, but my mom said not till I was 16. I'm glad she didn't.
The way I look at it now, I would rather a guy like me for me, not for how I dress up and all. I think it's great you don't want to wear make up. You could just put a little bit on when you're around her and when you're not, take it off lol.
Or just tell her that you don't want to attract guys, especially the wrong ones.

Answer 9

Tell your mother that it's your face and your decision if you want to put on make-up or not. Politely. Tell her to respect your choices because the person you're talking about here is you. So you just have to tell her that and to give you the rights to choose whether to wear it or not. :) It should really work.

Answer 10

Tell her straight up that your more confident in being yourself without make up, besides those who wear make up at the age of 13 normally put too much on and tend to look like barbie girls,