Am I wrong?

Question

I'm 16 years old and I haven't lived with my mother in nearly two years since she threw me out during an argument. She comes over almost everyday to use my computer because she doesn't want to pay for the internet at her own house. When she comes over, I have to babysit her or else she goes through everything.
Today she came over without giving me any notice, and I was in the middle of getting ready to go out. I couldn't get ready and babysit her at the same time, so I put everything on hold for two hours to let her do "research". After two hours, I told her she needed to leave so I could continue getting ready. She wouldn't leave, so we got into an argument and I almost called my dad to come home and make her leave. Finally, she left after saying, "Fine- I disown you, you disown me. Don't come to my house. Anything you have left there, your father can come pick it up, or the garbage men."

My question: Was it wrong for me to ask her to leave? How should I have handled it?

Answer 1

Well, if she doesn't live there, then yes. It was right for you to ask her to leave. It is not her home, and you put your plans on hold for her. It sounds as though she is abusing her privileges, and it was right for you to ask her to leave. Ask yourself this: If she was in your situation, would she have asked you to leave? If the answer is yes, then you did the right thing.
LB

Answer 2

If its your house, that your paying money or rent for, then you had every right, legally, to ask her to leave. If its your dad's house then you do have the right to ask her to leave, but your dad has the final say so. If its a shared house, then yes, you or the owner has the right to kick her out. It sounds like your mother has never really grown up. She needs to take responsibility for herself and her own life. And she's just being cheap by not paying for the internet. If she cant afford it, then thats another matter, but library's have computers that she could use. She also has no right to rifle through your stuff, thats an invasion of privacy. I think you did just exactly what you should have done. Your mom is the one who needs to step up to the plate here, not you. Good luck. :)

Answer 3

First of all little mom, when your are on your own that does not mean u don't have to show respect to your moma. She is the full grown adult and she really don't have to follow your rules. Is this house yours or you live with your dad? if you live with dad then, you should have still went out and le t her be. You don't have to babysit. She is a grown lady! What is she retarded or something? if she has no mental problems then I think you just got an isse=ue that you just don't want to admit. you think you are a full grown lady and needs respect regardless of what moma or dad say! Oh yeah, what did your dad say about all this? I'm confused! Who do yu live with? You sound as if you are living alone! My mom and i had a fallen out over something and had her friend with her. I had a right to ask her to leave because her friend was disrespecting me but if it had of been moma, well I wouldn't be too quick to push her out, I talk to her nicely. Parents are always right! Remember that! It don't matter how old you are you don't dis out your parents!

Answer 4

Well, it is hard to say. Its understandable that you freak out on your mother. Your mother is acting kinda childish as well. There is really no rite way to handle the situation, but your reaction should not have been over-reactive as well. She came un-notified and you needed to leave. So the only way to work it out now is to be a brave girl to ask her your mother for forgiveness even if you believe you are rite or wrong. The Lord commands us to honor our parents. It is also way better than having a grudge against your mother. Your mother is just frustrated being a divorced woman. Try to understand her. Even if things havent been quite smooth between you two, try to get to bond with her. She is still your mother. It takes a very good daughter to let your mother in.

Answer 5

you weren't wrong to ask her to leave. it is ur home. She threw u out of hers. you handled a lot calmly then any body else would have. u handled maturely and "right". she is your mom, and she is supposed to guide you. but when u can't even live with her then she no longer has that same control over you. maybe u can talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. but your not the one at fault here. Good Luck!

Answer 6

No it was not wrong of you to ask your Mother to leave! Don't beat yourself up over it. She has a lot of problems herself it seems and hasn't yet grown up. You do not have to let anything like that in your life even family if it hurts you! I know I've been there and because of my decision I'm a strong intelligent woman. I'm here for you if you need me!

Answer 7

I think you did the right thing. Mother or not, you have your own home now, and you have your own life. She should respect that (and also stop using you for free internet).

Answer 8

No, a person needs to show respect to get respect. She seems to be taking advantage of you. She has to understand that you have a life, too. As long as you were nice about it, I wouldn't worry.

Answer 9

i don't think u were wrong. ur a teen and need to have fun. she's to old to have a babysitter and needs to grow up. if she disowns you then don't worry about her anymore. or just talk to her and straighten things out.

i hope everything gets better for you.

Good Luck!!

Answer 10

Your mom is a selfish psycho, kind of like my brother. Put a password on your computer and tell her you don't have internet access anymore.