spare the rod and spoil the child?

Question

who thinks that you should correct a child by spanking

Answer 1

All you have to do is look at the behavior of "time-out" kids versus "spanked" kids, and realize there's a world of difference.

Time-out kids whine, bicker, and often defy their parents when they don't get their way in public. Candy on the check-out is a great way to study this.

Spanked kids rarely defy their parents openly (or at all).

Answer 2

I think it's okay to spank younger children who are too young to understand other punishments. A young child can easily make the connection with a swat on the butt that doesn't feel very nice with having just done something he wasn't supposed to. He won't make a connection, however, with having a toy taken away or being put in a time-out because in a few minutes, he doesn't understand why he is still being punished and he can't make the connection between his punishment and what he did wrong.

Spanking is an appropriate and effective punishment for kids who are old enough to understand right from wrong, but too young to understand the significance of losing privileges. And of course, I think spanking should be used in moderation (not every naughty thing a child does is worthy of being spanked for) and that using objects to spank is not acceptable. A child should never have marks or bruises afterwards.

Answer 3

I've been a mom for almost 22 years, and I have never raised a hand to any of my children. We have our bad days just like anyone else, but rather than hit my children I take away privileges that must be earned back through a change in attitude and behavior. I've always preferred this over a time out, because sitting for a few moments doesn't seem like much of a deterrent to bad behavior. Losing the TV for a week hits them where it hurts, and as a bonus gives them excess free time. Boredom eventually sets in, and these times seem to be when the kids gravitate towards mom. It's a great opportunity for talking and reconnecting, something I recommend highly. Striking someone you love is just wrong. You would never slap a friend so why hit your child?

Answer 4

My three siblings and I were spanked as children, we turned out fine. We learned to respect our elders, not to go out into oncoming traffic and so on and so forth. I spank my children (yes even my son that is in a wheel chair), and they use their manners when speaking or if they want something.
I spank them, not hard enough to leave marks, but hard enough to hurt their pride, to let them know, there are cosenquences to their actions.
If a child is going toward a light socket with a metal fork, are you going to slap their hand or let them electrocute themself?

Answer 5

Hello: Now day they don't want you to spank a child but I think yo
u should spank these children now days, they are hard headed and bad, can't keep still like they got ants in their pants. Some kids are well behave and you don't have to do anything but talk to them real good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

I think it depends if the child is a repeat offender. I probably had 2 spankings in my life because I was the type of child if you told me not to do something I would do it again becuz i hated making people feel bad.


o yeah there was another one but it was because my mom what to take her anger out on me . she told me to clean up i was and she struck me with a thick wrapping paper roll.

and when i was sad because my sibilings were bossing me around she gave me welts on my arms with a wire hanger .....only because i was sad.

anyway we don't talk now cuz she takes her issues out on me.

IF YOU ARE ENJOYING GIVING THE SPANKING SOMETHING IS WRONG.

EXPLAIN WHY YOU ARE GIVING THE SPANKING BECUZ IF YOU DON'T ALL THEY WOULD HAVE LEARN IS I SHOULDN'T DO THAT ANYMORE BECUZ MOM OR DAD WILL SPANK ME.

TILL THIS DAY I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THE REASONS FOR MOST OF MY SPANKINGS WERE FOR.

I THINK IT WAS MOSTLY MY MOTHER BECUZ MY DAD NEVER SPANKED ME BECUZ HE NEVER FOUND REASON TO.

Answer 7

Spanking, if done properly, is not abuse, and it doesn't hurt the kid in any way beyond the sting of correction. It can develop into abuse if not done with a careful hand. But in and of itself, it is certainly not bad.

This is not to say that it is always the right answer. Maybe there are some kids for whom a "time-out" type punishment would work better.

Answer 8

I was spanked as a kid as was my younger (we're 14 months apart) sister, while our third sister (6 years apart) never was.

The older of us turned out fine, no problems psychologically and knowing no means no.

The other one is the most spoiled person I have ever had to be in contact with. You tell me?

Answer 9

Children should be spanked in a loving manner only!

Answer 10

From personal experience, you cannot reason with a 2-year old. When I told her not to go out the gate, she did and almost got hit by a car. A swat on the butt is sometimes necessary--a child that age has to know to obey his parents.