I don't really mind him going online and chatting but last night he was chatting with some women. I looked at what they were talking about and it wasn't anything that I should worry about but I'm just bothered by it. Another thing, he is also ok about me even meeting other men. Like for chatting, and even going out with them. Is he getting crazy or am I getting paranoid?? If this is going to continue I feel like our marriage is going down the drain.
2007-02-17 12:00:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you dont like it. i think its reasonable to bring it up to him or ask him why it doesnt bother him that you talk to other men. Maybe its innocent and he feels a lot of trust with you, men dont get it sometimes, and women get too jelous over dumb things.
2007-02-17 12:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to figure out what about the situation bothered me so much. Is it a lack of trust? Do you think he's looking for more than friendly conversation? Is it that he talks online but isn't communicating with you? If you can find the root of your unease then maybe you can discuss it with him without accusing or attacking. If your honest with yourself about how you feel it will be so much easier to find a workable solution. At least that's the way it works for me. Good luck
2007-02-17 12:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Felicia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to him about the situation. As women we all want to be the only woman that our husband confides in.
Obviously you are uncomfortable about the situation and need to get it cleared up or it will just eat away at your relationship.
It may just be that she is someone that likes the same things as him, maybe she's "one of the boys" so he can talk to her about stuff he can't talk toyou about like sports etc.... But if he's talking to her instead of you about things that he should be talking to you about (stress at work/ money problems/ family issues) then this is where you need to draw the line.
I'm a little concerned for you about the direction he seems to be taking your marriage. If him encouraging you to go out alone with other men even just for Coffee is something new then I would question his motives.
My partner and I have friends of both sexes but have had them for years and we both go out in couples and as singles with them on their own, with their partnenrs and even their partners without them depending on work committments etc.... but we've always done that and tell each other all about the visit when we are in bed (that's our time to fill each other in on our day).
I really think you need to talk to your husband, let him know about how you feel, what your concerns are etc.... YOU CAN NEVER BE TOO CAREFUL IN THIS ELECTRONIC AGE!
2007-02-17 12:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by trishyblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry about it too much if he at least lets you in on what he is chatting about. It's when he hides things, you should worry. He is just "chatting" the same way he may chat in the supermarket. Don't worry about it , unless he hides it.
2007-02-17 12:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, u should be worried. Real relationships are born online. That's good for single people but not for married ones. Online Relationships are heart-breaking for committed individuals.
2007-02-17 12:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by nina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel catch him in the act if hes talking dirty
2007-02-17 12:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by TG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋