If someone is molested....?

Question

If someone is molested by thier uncle as a young child, and fondling/touching is just involved is it still damaging or not that big of a deal?

Answer 1

Still damaging, hard to get over and can take away trust and love for that family member or other males

Answer 2

Molestation is always a big deal, but as to the effect it can have depends on the individual child. It may cause the child to have a hard time trusting someone and feeling safe w/ anyone. Molestation is wrong on any account, but twice as bad when it is from a family member. These are people you are taught to love and trust and only want what is best for you, and for that reason alone the amount of damage that can be done is immeasurable. These acts can effect the child's ability to have healthy relationships and self image. Or worse cause the child to think that this is what is done in a family or loving relationship. Violence is a perpetual cycle, and molestation is a violent crime. It is always a good idea to have the child see a councilor to make sure that any and all questions and fears are dealt with. Keep in mind this act was done by a family member, so the child may not be able to share everything w/ another family member, even a parent,

Answer 3

It is terribly damaging to a child anytime the line of appropriateness is crossed. The child will feel violated, hurt (especially if the offender is a relative or someone the child looks up to) and probably, although incorrectly, ashamed. Counseling is necessary to sort these types of issues out so that they do not cause more problems later in life and so that the child can go on to live a happy childhood as opposed to a fearful and confused one.
It is also important that the offender's identity be made (discreetly) known to anyone who has children that may be around the person, even if it was many years ago that the person violated a child. This behavior is never a "one-time thing" and it is probable that other children experienced mental, emotional and physical pain inflicted upon them by the same adult.

Good luck

Answer 4

It's very damaging I am 12 years old and I went through it for 3 years by a family member . Kids know when things don't feel right hope the child won't remember, it is best that the person is charged and the child doesn't see them again.

The way the child ends up depends on how they channel their fears and anger. If they continue to live as victims it will damage them if they move on and are able to talk about it and hold their heads up they will have a better chance of surviving as a happy person.

Answer 5

I really think it depends on how "big a deal" the person makes of it. If you let it freak you out, then yes it will be damaging. But if you consider it just somethying that happened and realize it's not a thing you did wrong, and put it behind you mentally, then not so much will bother you. After all, fondling is not invasive and painful like actual rape would be. So the person needs to decide how big a deal they are going to LET it be for them. After all, why does everything sex-related need to be such a big deal and all traumatic in this country? (the U.S.) - it's only sex!

Answer 6

Any inappropriate touching by an adult to a child is a big deal. It happened to me, and my uncle was just made to move out of the house. Nothing was never said about it because I think my aunt thought I was too young to remember (6), but I never forgot and can't for the life of me understand why he would do this to his sister's child. I didn't need counseling, but it sure made me keep a close eye on my daughter, and she knows that if any man in or out of the family touches her inappropriately, to tell me immediately because in our society, we focus on protecting the accused rather than he accuser. I would do whatever I needed to protect my daughter from something like that.

Answer 7

Depends on the person..My uncle, dads best friend, molested me for years and i ended up being a call girl,drug addict,can't have lasting relationships..but I am o.k. I have a good job raised two kids all that's behind me. So yes it is damaging but you can get over it.Don't let it ruin your life,like its ruined my younger years.Get therapy or just put it behind you and forget it."course that's easier said than done.

Answer 8

Being touched by a family member in a way that is inappropriate is still damaging. Seek help.

Answer 9

Yes, it can still be very damaging to a child. It could remain in their memory's for the rest of their lives. Kids know and rememeber MORE than you'll ever realize.

Answer 10

Very Damaging..no matter who touched the child..