2007-02-17 11:21:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I wouldn't recommend going through her things. I wouldn't ask her, either. I would just sit her down and say that it's time you had a serious discussion. Maybe share with her some of the reasons for having sex. Make sure that she knows why it's important to be with a person who she trusts and who trusts her. You should also let her know how to protect herself and to make sure that the person she is with is protected, as well. If you tell her she can't have sex or make her feel bad for already having sex, you may run into more problems. The best way is to make sure she knows that you are a resource for her and where else she can go to ask questions if she doesn't feel comfortable talking with you. You love your daughter and you want to protect her. However, you don't want to alienate her by having her think that she isn't trusted.
And will knowing whether or not she has already had sex make a difference? Just so long as she knows how to protect herself and sees you as a resource instead of an obstacle, then it shouldn't matter whether she already has. I don't know how old she is, but if she is thinking about it, maybe take her for a vaginal exam and make sure that the obstetrician talks to your daughter about birth control options and other methods of protection (preferably not having sex at all, right?! :). Good luck with your daughter!
P.S. The conversation will be uncomfortable for both of you, but it's really important that your daughter see you as someone who can help her.
2007-02-17 11:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can tell by the behavior. Young ladies change, become more irritable and have alot of mood swings. Changes in the relationship between mom and daughter change as well. What once used to be your time out together will suddenly turn into a boy is more important or hanging out with the girls where you "aren't" is common. I have two girls and one of them became active at age 19 and although that seems late to some, as a mom, it's still to soon. Our relationship changed as I described. Be understanding, don't use the disease theory on her or the pregnancy theory. Just let her know that you are there and she needs to remember that you love her and you expect her to keep herself safe. Good Luck
2007-02-17 19:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by inkinheaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Because just because her hymen has broken doesn't mean it happened during sex. It could have happened when she was 5 and had a hard fall.
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2007-02-17 19:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
see now there inst no easy ansewer for this question. i have a four month old daughter, and i am a young mother yes but i just dont think it would be right for you to go threw her things and interigated her tofind out, i never wanted my mom to find out just beacuse she ismy bestfriend, and i didnt want to have her be ashamed of me. if your daughter is having sex trust her to tell you, dont loose her trust by going threw her things.
beacuse i can guaerenty you she wont after you do that, and you will never have the same bond with her.
and also if you even think shes having sex its too late, the best thing to do would be to take her and put her on birth control. you cant stop it no matter how mch you think you can, she will find away around it i promise.
girls are getting more and more heartless now adady, i pray shes not one of them, but if she is having sex, please make sure she does it safe, beacuse if she wants to she will.
2007-02-17 23:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by cortney a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is there is no certain way to tell, I don't think anyway. Her arms legs and right below her neck will become very sensitive. But I don't know if that happens to everyone or just me. I don't really know any way for you 2 tell, but she might act a little different.
2007-02-17 20:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but i am a gyno! And colleen 0- you are wrong. We can tell if your daughter is a virgin or not. Are you sure you want to do that, i mean embarress her and take her to a doctor? If she is really young, i can see where you are coming from. But i would still go through her room before taking her to a gyno. By you taking her there, it will show her that you dont trust her and your nosey. if you snoop, she will never find out and you will find out the answer. My advice to you is if your daughter is 15 yrs or older, put her on the pill.
2007-02-17 19:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by marriedsoon 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you're a mother who knows where her child is, and who she is with 24/7, you won't need to ask or go through her things.
2007-02-17 19:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her and tell her that she wouldnt get into trouble because you need to know whether her health is in danger. She would probably lie about it though. so you should talk to her obgyn and find out.
2007-02-17 19:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Piper(: 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way unless she has contracted an STD, HIV or HPV or is pregnant. Even a Gynecologist can not tell whether a woman is a virgin or not...MY daughter told me.
2007-02-17 19:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can't.
you will just have to ask her
and never, ever go through your kids things. that is horrible and bad-parenting.
- and she can refuse to see a doctor. you are also terrible if you'd try to force her. I hope any child who in that position knows how to contact a child rights protection attorney.
and hymens can break during sports-
2007-02-17 22:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋