He lost her less than a year ago and he was extremely close to her. this was his first xmas without her...his first bday without and so on. i really feel sympathy for him but i can't empathize with him b/c i have never lost anyone close to me. we have started to spend less time together b/c he has started to work longer hrs and 6 days/wk. i have xpressed my concerns with us not spnding time togther anymore but i really feel he is grieving still and don't want to put any addd stress on him how can i help him/hlp our relationship continue to grow ( we've been dating for 6 months now and his mother passed away Mar 2006)
2007-02-17 10:45:12 · 3 answers · asked by Divine_10 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey...give him his space....
My ex-husband came to me when his Mom died...because he was a mama's boy... I was the one who filled that void.
He had a girl friend too.
he is confused right now honey...and deeply hurting.
It is really hard on a mama's boy....it may take one full year.
Still when her B-Day and the day she died comes around...you still will have to have compassion on him...years to come.
Don't give up....support him with little messages and emails...other wise...silents is golden. :-)
He will be alright....stay strong...this is a VERY important time....that he can look back on with precious memories.
It will only strengthen your relationship...handle with great care honey...good luck.
2007-02-17 11:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how he feels. I lost my dad in June of 2006. I think he just needs some time to grieve. I know it's been a while, but the pain of loosing a parent is not something you just "get over". I can see your just trying to find a way to help him out, and help out your relationship, but maybe he's just not ready to be involved in a relationship.
Or maybe you could make plans for you and him, on a day he's not working, so you can spend time together. When two people have different schedules and are determined to have a relationship, scheduling is very important. And it's not like "oh I'll have to pencil you in", but it's more about spending quality time together because you don't get to spend as much time as you would both like to together.
2007-02-17 18:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Blondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him grieve in his own way, It's ok to feel bad for him, but you can't 'force' him to get over his Mom's death. If you end up breaking up with him over this, you were never meant to be together in the first place, but, if your relationship does survive this, he will love you even more, because any man who loved his Mother THAT much, surely will love his wife that much too. BTW- I lost both of my parents- my Dad when I was 4 years old, and my Mom 5 years ago. Hope this helps. Good Luck.
2007-02-17 18:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by tiggerpat66 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋