I moved in with my boyfriend 3 months ago while I look for a job. He has hardly been around the past 3 weeks and it it emotionally draining. He gets mad when I talk about how I am feeling and how he is mean to me. He even said that he doesn't know why I am so emotional because I have always been the strong one.
I told him that I give up, and he told me to hang on. Then when I told him that I wanted to take a job in another state, he told me "do what you want" and that would be the end of us.
Over the past 2 years, I have given up everything to be with this man. I am living in his apartment, yet he is hardly ever here. I am at a loss because when he is nice, there is no one who is better than him. He can be caring, romantic, and I enjoy being with him.
2007-02-17 10:45:00 · 5 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry to say it but I think you jumped into this too soon. You should not have moved in with him. I think that maybe he thinks you have lost your independence. He may also feel that you are using him as an emotional crutch. There is a breakdown of the communication barrier and you need to repair it. I would ask him if he needs some space and see what his response is..
2007-02-17 11:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation before but I was your boyfriend. He is probably feeling threatened cuz his space is no longer his own. Since he is a man, he has no ideas how to express his feelings so avoids you and home completely. He gets mad at you for saying how you are feeling cuz he is mad at himself for not saying what he is feeling.
First sign of danger is that you say you have given up everything for him...Why? and for What? So you could write and ask for help? I don't think so...You deserve better and its up to you if you want better. If you don't...then stay with him.
Its time to make a life for yourself. Find your own place and do your own thing. Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't know how to be with you. I am sure he can be caring and romantic but wouldn't you rather have him be that way all the time..not just when its convenient for him?
2007-02-17 19:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by Alliswell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be bipolar. But no matter what, he's not there for you now, when you need him all the time.
It seems he's tiring of you, and your needs. If he can't give you what you need, then it is time to take that job, in another state and start a new life for yourself.
The situation you are in now, isn't good for you, not knowing which of your boyfriend is going to show up.
2007-02-17 18:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously you guys need to talk but if he is not willing to listen than maybe you should move on. Maybe you moved in together too soon, he obviously is not happy about something, if communication is a problem that I would think twice about the relationship.
2007-02-17 18:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is tired of you and wants out. maybe he met a new chick and goes to her house and spends time with her. we never know
good luck i hope he stops doing these silly things.
take good care
2007-02-17 18:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by Female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋