All my life I've played the epitome of the "nice guy." Helped the ladies when they needed help, complimented them, opened doors, etc... Where'd it got me: NOWHERE.
So I got sick of it, did the opposite, and just started acting like a jerk to any woman I could find. I make fun of their hair and taste in clothes, tease them about their friends, and pretend they are even lucky I'm paying attention to them. This is basically what I do to my guy friends.
They pretend like they are mad, but they absolutely love it. This has worked (for me) for any woman for the past 2 years regardless of age or body type. If it really annoyed them then they wouldn't stick around. Note: I still treat them with the utmost respect- I just bust on them.
So for all the talk women do about wanting "nice guys," it's not what they really want. So why don't you ladies just admit it? It'd save guys trouble and save you the time weeding through the bad eggs to find the spoilt one.
Like they say, nice guys finish last.
2007-02-17 10:40:23 · 16 answers · asked by dmlk2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to further this a little for some of the females answering:
I never have, nor ever will, treat anyone like "dirt"... I just have fun with the girls like I do my guy friends and 90% of them have loved it.
If girls don't like guys who treat them like guys, then explain why 90% keep sticking around when I wasn't given the time of day before?
Additionally, I found it's easier to "be myself" like this than it was before because now I have more confidence and am building better friendships than 2 yrs ago. So I guess "myself" has changed.
Just wanting a little insight from others on this issue, and thanks for the responses!
2007-02-17 10:55:18 · update #1
Why is it the girl's fault? You said you "played the epitome of the 'nice guy'" and that now you are a jerk and you like it better. If both males and females pretend to be nice to each other it is both gender's fault for deceiving each other. You shouldn't be asking why girls pretend, you should be asking why you bothered to pretend all this time instead of acting like a raging butt hole.
2007-02-17 10:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by BLANK 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Being someone who has dated her share of "bad boys", I can say that "nice guys" are so much better. My fiance is playful, he teases me (good heartedly), but he's not mean to me. If you really are a nice guy then quit treating those women so badly. Be who you are and the right woman will come along. Who wants to be with a woman who wants to be treated like dirt?
2007-02-17 10:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Super Rach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree, and neither do my friends. And making fun of someones hair and clothes does not constitute "treating them with the utmost respect". You're attracting the type of woman you want to attract. There ARE women who want nice guys: they're probably just all older than you.
2007-02-17 10:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah..it's true nice guys do finish last..Then again, you want someone who is going to respect you and treat you well. You don't want a doormat! If you are too pleasing to a woman you turn her off because it's too easy. The same for men. They like to chase..the harder the chase..the more they want the girl. A person doesn't want to be with someone that is too easy and too accommodating. I admit that I'm not attracted to nice guys, but ones that are self confident. Some nice guys aren't and that's a turn off. I don't want a guy who treats me badly either. So, it has to be the person..the chemistry...the spontaneity.
2007-02-17 10:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you were too nice *gasp* There actually is such a thing. I want someone that can be nice (but not too nice) but turn around and pick and joke with me and be able to take it too. But some girls don't like guys that do, so you just have to find the right girl.
2007-02-17 10:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude chicks want bad boys. Yeah they say that they want a nice guy and that they want someone that treats them right but in reality they want someone with a pair of nuts in his pants.
For example me. I am a pretty tough person. I do not talk to people unless they talk to me first. I dont have any social issues, I just know that I'm the **** and that I don't really need to talk to people if they don't benifit me. But when it comes to my wife, well she makes me soft.
2007-02-17 10:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by nismo1481 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tooooootally agree with you, I was 'nice' in high school and it got me nowhere. Then I figured it out in university (just in time). I think girls like to feel like they are being treated as equals for one. It may also make them feel secure if they see you being a wise guy to other girls.
2007-02-17 10:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by joninjapan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women marry nice guys but fool around with bad guys. Nice guys do not present any challenges to a owman. Women want to "fix" something that is wrong in a guy, and if there is nothing to fix with you, then you lose their interest.
My advice is to BE YOURSELF and don't worry so much about women who really do not know what it is they want. There will be women who will recognize you for who you are.
2007-02-17 10:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, I know it sucks, I being a 'nice guy'. But here's the deal---do us 'nice guys' really want the kind of girl that goes for the 'mean guy' over the 'nice guy'?
2007-02-17 10:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by Spearfish 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As the old saying goes...
"Nice guys always finish last."
I've seen guys been dumped by girls for being "too nice." Believe it or not. It has happened.
2007-02-17 10:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by David 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋