why do step moms have to be so evil???

Question

i have just moved with my dad and is feonce, i had problems with my real mom @ home so i went 2 court. thats how i ended up with my dad. well, my step mom doesnt like me @ all and i dont know y.
now my dad is sided with her and she is making up nothing but lies
why are step moms so evil??
should i just tell my dad that if she isint out of the house, then i am out

Answer 1

No you don't tell your dad that if she's not out the house then you are! That's not your choice. You can't make it on your own. Where else are you going to go? You act like everyone is against you.......your mom, your stepmom, your dad............if everyone treats you the same way........one day you are going to have to realize that maybe it's you. Is she being evil or is she just not letting you do what you want to do? If she really is being mean for no reason at all, just talk to her. Tell her how she makes you feel and try to work it out.

Answer 2

Well, I dont know how old you are, and if the court has sent you to live with your dad...thats pretty much where you have to stay until you are 18. If you dont have a job or a way to support yourself then you need to try and make things better at home...at least until you can get a job and move out. There are millions of people in your situation. Probably your dad is not going to help as he is married to her now and wants things in his house to be smooth. So...you need to talk to HER. Find a good time and be sweet...tell her the two of you want to talk. Tell her the both of you love your dad, and want him to be happy...so you need to work it out. Try taking about why she is doing what she is doing and if there is anything about what you are doing she does not work...its worth a shot. If you go against her and behind her back by going to your dad with the problem..of course she is going to make up lies. The only thing is to make her a friend not an enemy...for the time being. I know this sounds hard...and you will have to be a good actress...but with a little effort you can pull it off. Then things will at least be peaceful for as long as you live there.

Answer 3

You could do that, but be ready to move out. Your Dad is never going to pick you over his wife. That is a very bitter pill to swallow I know. Please try to remember that this is your Step mother's house. Your Dad has intentions on being with her for the rest of his life. Men cater to thier wives. You are the other hand are going to grow up and experience a wonderful life of your very own. This is the second woman you couldn't get along with first your mom and now your stepmom. Ask yourself what is your part in all of this. It always takes two people to fight. As much as you don't want to, you are either going to be misreable for the next few years, or you can start building a relationship with Step Mom. Then the two of you can gain up on Dad together. You really need her as a friend not a foe.

Answer 4

OMG!! i feel sorry for you. Not all step moms are mean b/c my mom is a step mom and my step sister likes her more than her real mom, but in your situation, I think some stepmoms are mean b/c they probably dont want to share their husband with anyone. She's probably jealous of the relationship you have with your father and she feels you are taking him away from her b/c she had him all to herself be4. I don't know if by telling your dad its going to help you since he's already siding with her so try telling though u never know and if that doesnt work try staying at a friend's house. Wish You the Best of Luck!!

Answer 5

Just an idea, You need to relax and be cool, and pick a time when your step mom is not around and sit with your Dad and really go to town about the way you feel most important. Chances are he will take notice but my guess is that you and your step mum will have to come to a comprimise at some point. Thing you need to do is concentrate on that and dont worry about what she is doing. If she is really doing what you say then you need to show her that its not having the desired effect she wants, which is you on the point of leaving if you get me. Its time for you to fight back the right way

Answer 6

You need to sit down with your dad & his fiance & talk things out. Don't talk to your soon to be, future step mom alone, just to be on the safe side. I'm not surprised that your dad is siding with his fiance because that's only normal. If his fiance is telling lies about you, then the truth will come out sooner or later. Don't make your dad choose between you or her. I think you know who he'll choose. Right? Try real hard to get along with your dad's fiance & hopefully, she'll meet you halfway. Help out around the house, etc. Give it your best shot & if she doesn't treat you better, then at least you tryed & your dad will see that you have tryed. The best thing that can happen is that his fiance & you could get along with each other. If she sees you trying maybe she will too. It won't happen overnight, so give it time.

Answer 7

I think you should talk to you Step Mother and find out what is going on, speaking from the stand point of a Step Mom, I treat my step children that reside with us the same as I treat our child, so not every Step Parent is Evil, just like not every parent is the awesome.

Answer 8

It won't work! I have an evil step mother of my own. Dad stuck by her too. Sounds like your dad will do the same. You'll end up being left out. If you are an adult, do what you have to in order to get out and on your own. If you're still a kid, keep a log of what goes on. Talk to your step mom, see if you can iron things out. Maybe it's not as bad as it seems. Not all step moms are bad. I got one, but maybe you can work things out with yours. Good luck!

Answer 9

Not all moms or step moms are evil, we need to be communicated with. We show respect when we are respected. Have a talk w/her first find out why she feels the way she does, and maybe you 2 can work it out, if not start carrying a recorder to tape how she mouths of to you, don't make the mistake of biting back. When you have enough on the tape give it to your Dad, and ask him to listen to it. He can HEAR for himself how you are being treated.

Answer 10

I am sorry to heard that. I had problems with my step mother ever since I was 8 y/o. but every case is diferent. In my situation my step mom was and will always be jealous of me cause she couldn't give birth of a boy in our family. She gave 3 girls to my dad in his second marriage. So she felt that my dad will always love us no matter what cause we are the only boys (2 boys from the first marriage)

The most efective game I could play against her was not to even bother about her.. just stay close and be smart. Respect rules in yours dad and her house. You must . Sorry is hard you you must respect them even if they dont respect you.

I am gonna give you a very usefull and important tip for this case, read careful:

IN ORDER FOR YOU TO CONTROL THE SITUATION AND THEM, YOU MUST FOLLOW THIS MAGIC RULE:

YOU WILL REALLY CONTROL PEOPLE ARROUND YOU WHENENVER YOU MAKE THEM BELIEVE THAT THEY ARE CONTROLING YOU. THATS A FACT.

MAKE THEM FELL THAT THEY HAVE CONTROL ON YOU AND THAT'S WHEN YOU HAVE CONTROL OF THEM.

Do and respect what they say, dont go agaist their words, make them believe that you are listen and doing as they said, then you will be in control. but inside of you think samt and do what really is correct. God is with you on this. Good luck.