boyfriend's mother died ls than one year ago...he is still grieving?

Question

My boyfriend tells me that he loves our relationship and doesn't want to lose me but it is difficult for me b/c we are not spendign much time together any more and I have chosen to spend mroe time with my friends (some of whch are male) since he is not available. I'm a vry active person. I'm not doing this to make him jealous. they were my frinds be/4 he and i mt and he was ok with it until now. probalby b/c he is not available and fels threatened.My boyfriend was very close to hismother and she passd away lss than one year ago. She ahd already passed when i mt him so i never met her. but he speaks of her very much. I'm also wondering if her death is the reason t hat we seem to have stppd getting to know each other and he works extremely longer hours and 6 days a week. I am assuming that his mothers death could be playing a part in us not spending more time togther. could hismothers death be affecting our relationship? if so how can i be there 4 him while he grieves

I appreciate the responses below...definitely could also use some male perspective as well

Answer 1

I've said this to many people before, and I'll say it again to you. TALK IT OUT. I know you may think that you never have the time to, or he won't give you the time, but it's your only option now. You have to let him know how you feel, even if you have to talk about this mom in front of him. It can hurt you to see him that way, but you can be there for him. It may be his decision to avoid you, but it's a sign that he's only hiding away because he needs you.

Answer 2

I think he is still grieving- if you think about it, one year is not a long time, one year passes so quickly before you even know it, it feels like a day. I think you should be there for him and support him- like if he wants a little space, just give it to him- and whenever you are both together, reassure him that things are going to be fine and always, especially, be in a good mood. Talking about things and opening up and being very mature and tactful and caring is the best way to do things- that is if you want to really work on it! Good luck to you and your boyfriend!

Answer 3

I beleive that he is still grieving and there is nothing that you can do to get him over it..he needs several things from you though..support, a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen to him, and your time. He may not know what to say to you because sometimes when you grieve you become numb to feelings and your surroundings. I really need to express to him that you will be there for him regardless. He may also be jealous due to the fear of loosing you. He sees it that he already lost his mother and he does not want to loose you as well.