ok so i met this rich guy who amde the move first on me. we have known each other for 2mnths now. he insists that he has to but me things expensive things and i refuse it cause i know hell end up wanting sex in return. He gets annoyed when i dont accept his gifts... i mean they are a bit extreme cruise trips , jewelry and ive only known him 2mnths. i told him that the next time he offers ill accept. Valentines day he wanted to carry me on a shopping spree i never went! nevertheless he stopped calling me since is it that i am being disrespectful by not acceptin the gifts and he feels bad? or is it he wanted to butter me up for a bootycall and realise im not giving in so he gave up while he's ahead? or he really likes me?
2007-02-17 10:13:47 · 13 answers · asked by hershey's kisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could just be that he really likes you and wants to spend money on you, but if you don't feel comfortable with his gifts you should explain why, and if he can't put your fears to rest (about him just wanting sex in return) or if he can't accept your feelings, then you should stay away from him.
2007-02-17 10:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by cg17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be straight with him (I know easier said then done). Do not accuse him of buying your love cause that will make things worse, but I would talk to him and say that you really do appreciate the gifts, but it makes you feel a little uncomortable as you have not been together so long and you would like to get to know him as him (not his money) first. Do not ask him if he just wants sex - tell him you are not quite ready but would like to form a better relationship first. Seeing his reaction will tell you if he just wants a piece or if he is really interested in you as you.
2007-02-17 18:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him, maybe he just wants to make you happy. Your assumption may right about an ulterior motive though, I am a guy and could definitely see myself doing that. That is one thing that attracted me to my wife. After dating several weeks, I stopped all the little gifts and dining out for 1 week, she never complained, or even noticed so I knew she was cool. we celebrate ten years this coming august. Ask him to stop being so extravagant if it really bothers you but take the little things....
2007-02-17 18:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by don3070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a real guy really cares about you, he'd respect your choice & hell he should respect you more when he realize you're way more than he thought you're worth. I'm sure a guy like him has been around many low self-esteem females, which is why he should appreciate REAL beauty when he sees one. Getting upset is something a patient caring guy wouldn't do. There's a price you pay for everything. Things just don't drop into your laps. He's not worth it. Life is not about luxuries. It's about respecting yourself & being happy the way you treat your own life.
2007-02-17 18:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call him and say im sorry amd expect the gifts and if he asks for sex just im sorry im not ready for that yet and say sorry. If he calls you a gold digger than say you could you got mad before when i didnt expect but sooner o later all will pass
Hope I helped
2007-02-17 18:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are mean!! no wonder he feels so bad. accept his gifts! you know even if he is rich doesnt mean he will walk into a jewlery shop and buy a 15 karot diamond on the spot. those things cost money and you turn it down! u mean persom
2007-02-17 18:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by ro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he buys you things doen't mean he wants it, and if he did you have to just tell him you are not like that and he will have to respect you, he probably gave up on you because you turned down his gifts and he probably is spending his money on someone else..
2007-02-17 18:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy isn't normal. Trying to buy love instead of just getting to know you. Dump him.
2007-02-17 18:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could really like you Or he could just want u 4 sex. leave him if u dont feel confortable with him and the way hes treatin u.
2007-02-17 18:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he wants 2 buy u
2007-02-17 18:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ms Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋