To be more specific... lets say you are dating somone and you break up because they consider you "just a friend." This is probably because they were "too nice" making it seem like a confidence issue. Once that person has that peception of you as being "a really good friend" is there something you can do to show more confidence and maybe show the girl you are "quite a catch" and that seh made a mistake. Or is it too late?
2007-02-17 10:03:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Intuitively it is too late. The other person is right about you. The best you can do, is get ready for the next time. Change.
2007-02-17 10:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by hoodwink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it is too late or not depends vastly on the individual in question. I would simply caution you that the person you choose to be in a long term relationship with should like you for who you already are, not just because they got a new perception of you. I would suggest finding someone who is captivated by you when you are really being yourself. I learned this the hard way, but I ended up in a much better relationship afterward than I would have been in i I had succeeded in impressing the first person I wanted to.
2007-02-17 10:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by seaturtle26j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, unfortunately I think it is too late. Your situation is pervasive almost to the point that before you date a girl, you want to get an assurance that you will mot be just a friend. I don't think it is a confidence issue. I don't think breaking off is a bad thing. Her image of you is not what you want to be. In time she may want you back, but if you choose to go down that path, make sure it is on your terms.
2007-02-17 10:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is hard to change someone's perception of you. Either you feel that connection or"chemistry" or you don't. I have dated guys that were great guys...friendly, nice, and a gentleman...However, I never did feel a spark! It was more just a lukewarm feeling. It had nothing to do with them because it was just the "chemistry". I didn't feel it. I didn't want to get seXually involved with them. Also, being too nice of a guy and too attentive can be a turn-off for most girls. You can't ever let anyone do whatever they want in a drop of a hat. Once she knows that...it gets boring! I know, girls are wierd...Just do your thing and find someone else. If she already feels like you are "just a friend" then you can not change her mind. Do not put yourself in a position where you are trying to do all these things for her to like you. You can not lower yourself to that! There are plenty of girls out there and go find someone that likes you back! I think if someone that I considered "a guy friend" tried to change my mind or do things to make himself look better...that would turn me off. Only because I already told him that I just wanted to be friends. Don't be her friend because you like her too much and you want to be with her! I can't be "just friends" with someone that I like to be with. Do yourself a favor and move on to the neXt girl...too many fish in the sea!
2007-02-17 10:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well apart from being more confident generally, you can try going out with another girl. Sometimes you want most what you can't have. ou may have to bear in mind that it is your personality, and she would not be comfortable going out with you. You should not force this upon her, or change your personality because she will realise what you are doing.
2007-02-17 10:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by without.question 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr Helmut
I would have to say you are wasting your time. It is too late. You will have to move on before you get too old to attract young women. The problem is that she made up her mind while you were doing something else like trying to play hard to get. Or something else was keeping you busy. Did you ever hear of the term "Strike While The Iron is HOT?" That applies to women more than anything else I think.
2007-02-17 10:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by oakbridge 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think trying to change a persons perception of you is a bad idea. If they love you then they will accept you for who you are and just maybe they will see what they couldn't see before.
2007-02-17 10:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not too late until a wedding ring is on her finger...actions speak louder than words and be sure to keep your image in the mind of the girl...build your value step by step...be there for the celebrations and for the down time and odd times and fun times...be the one who calls and who she calls...good luck...will pray for your success...daily I pray that my young adult daughters see that their male friends who are "good catches" get the edge somehow...you never know what little action will turn the heart in your favor...sometimes girls are distracted and don't see the big picture...be patient...and persistent...job counselors tell you to keep your name in the mind of the employee and don't lose contact.
2007-02-17 10:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel about her... that would change the perception of you... try a little honesty
2007-02-17 10:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by D and L M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't see your worth the first time around she's not worth the effort. peroid.
2007-02-17 10:07:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋