I love her more than anything. It just that I didn't want to witness the birth of my child. I wouldn't mind taking care of the baby with her. My wife thinks I am a very cruel, and hateful husband. I love her and my child. That just doesn't make sense.
2007-02-17 09:49:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
you should want to be there for the birth of your child!
if you are grossed out by the whole birthing process then just be at your wife's side you don't have to even glance at her waist down area, and you don't have to cut the cord, tell the nurses/doctor that you would be comfortable with them doing it.
you need to be there for support, and to meet your baby!
2007-02-17 09:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by mcm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The birth of your child is a great deal to her. A woman wants to share the greatest experience with the people she loves. My husband missed our first son being born (by no fault of his own) I was still so mad at him for years. This is something that can never be recreated. No two delievers are the same. You didn't have to look. You could have stood at the head of her bed. Your support helps her relax. Missing the birth is like missing your child's 1st birthday party. And this is something you and her can talk about for years to come.
2007-02-17 10:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jade 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's often hard for men to do, but do try to talk to her about your feelings. And don't just say you want to take care of the baby, show her with your actions! And a little affection, tenderness and extra patience and understanding would probably go a long way.
Don't forget too, that the hormonal changes in her body can make for unusual mood swings. Good luck to you.
Oh, and some flowers wouldn't hurt.
2007-02-17 10:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by gtravels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on why you don't want to witness the birth. i can see why she would thunk that though.it may be silly but she probably thinks that if you really loved her you'd be there with her. its pretty uncommon that the father doesn't want 2 b there when his kid is born(unless they r not together of course). she probably wants you there 2 support her. giving birth isnt as easy as it may seem. the father and the doctors are usually the only ones in there during the birth. it may not seem like a big deal, but its really important 2 her. if i were u i would just go through with it and if its that u have a weak stomach, just do it, overcome your fear and make her happy. its like hitting 2 birds w/1 stone.
2007-02-17 10:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She feels abandoned. It may sound odd to you but giving birth is VERY scary and painful. She felt rejected and that you rejected your child. If you didn't want to witness the birth you could've just stayed by her side holding her hand & just being there. It's something that should've been dealt with before the birth. but if it's already happened you can help her by being honest,share in the physical work with your child, & TALK TO HER.she needs to know you are there NO MATTER WHAT. if you can't talk to her write it down on paper that does help but YOUR ACTIONS WILL ALWAYS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-17 10:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by rencar32002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the fact that you said you went on vaction to purposely be away from her during the birth is what makes you the way she thinks. the birth of a child is a beautiful thing, esp yours. you need to realize that she wanted your support during that. its something ever woman wants, and something that you should both have experienced. this question sounds a lot better than the last about this. esp since ya added the love part, but sorry, doesn't make ya any better.
2007-02-17 09:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by ricleigh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was she always like this or could it just be her harmones being pregnant acting up? It sounds like she just wants you to be a part of her pregancy since she will be the one having nine months thinking about it. Just talk to her and tell her how you feel. A lot of men just don't want to see their child being born and that is not to say they will not love that child with all their hearts when they are in this world.
2007-02-17 09:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by uneak162801 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't understand that some guys just cannot handle seeing the birth of the child. you still need to be at the hospital though. it is a very important milestone when a child is born. there are more guys out there that cannot handle this than you think. just explain this to her. you are not a bad person for not doing this. she will get over it. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-17 09:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because like you said before you were on vacation and left. I feel so sorry for her. You are cruel and hateful and if you really loved her, then you would be there for her and your baby. That is just terrible. Seriously I would be sooooo super upset Im sure she didnt feel like going through that pain either, but she had no choice about it.
2007-02-17 10:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Blondi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband missed our first child's birth but it definitely wasnt because he was on vacation! you will never know what its like to give birth to a child, but if there is one time that a woman ABSOLUTELY needs her man by her side, its giving birth. you got a mess to clean up, but i'd start by telling how u feel about the whole thing.
2007-02-17 11:15:20 · answer #10 · answered by shaq 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋