It makes me feel like I am unimportant and no I don't have low self-esteem ...I just don't know how to get the message across to her that that's how most people would feel.....
If she would say she'll call but give no time...it would solve the problem. I have encourage her to put herself first on occasions but I didn't mean step on other's feelings
2007-02-17 09:40:36 · 11 answers · asked by paradox 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She's just thoughtless or maybe just a person who lives in the moment. Neither my brother nor sister ever calls or emails me. A counselor told me to just give up my expectations of them, so I am trying to. It makes me feel the same way.
If you've told her how you feel, and the problem persists, I advise you to do the same. Accept her for what she is. If she tells you again that she'll call tonight, just smile at her and remind yourself it's probably not going to happen.
2007-02-17 10:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by Oh, Bama! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get myself worked up over it. I don't think people feel unimportant when someone doesn't call. I've lost count how many times my cousin and I have said I'll ring you this weekend and never called the other. A month goes by and one of calls to say hello and there are no hard feelings. I work, she has kids we don't worry about really. But we know where the other is if we are needed. Its really nothing to be hurt over people get busy.
2007-02-17 10:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, this is how your sister is. She makes promises and does not keep them. I doubt that making calls is the only area where this happens. It's not personal. I'm sure she treats most people the same way.
So, accept it. You don't have to like it, but don't expect her to do what she says. Don't get mad; that hurts you and doesn't influence her. On the same principle, don't say you will wait for her call. (I know, that if you tell her that, you will wait at home even if you would like to go out, because you don't like to inconvenience others.)
Just learn to live with her the way she is, because she won't change.
2007-02-17 12:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sister like that. The only time she gets a hold of anyone in the family is Christmas time. Our family basically laughed at her. Now, my niece is getting married and I am the only one in the family who has not received an invitation or anything like that. I called her eight times and left messages and she never called back. So, again, I am just going to ignore the trouble she causes.
2007-02-17 10:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 06:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the same to her - i have a friend like that, it doesn't bother me i just say to her as soon as she calls that i'll call back then never do - pretty soon shes either a) gonna ask about it in which case tell her how you feel or b) gonna call you back a few hours later when you haven't called her in which case problem solved =D good luck =D
2007-02-17 09:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you so lonely that you would tear yourself apart just because she does not abide by her promises to you? You can't be waiting by the phone the rest of your life for a promised call that may never come.
2007-02-17 09:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by furrryyy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell me you don't sit waiting by the phone for her call! You know the type of person she is, your not going to change that so stop taking it personal. You need to have no expectations from her and you will have no disappointments. If she does ever call you back it will be a welcome surprise. People like that don't change...they simply don't.
2007-02-17 09:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by ireallydoknowitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. Say look I cant just sit around and wait for your call so if you are going to call then call. Tell her not to make promises she cant keep. You have to be bllunt and honest.
2007-02-17 09:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by evie_cooper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's really not good to let other people effect you self esteem, I would not wait around for her to call.
2007-02-17 09:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by pepsiolic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋