My brother is about to get married to this woman. She is pregnant and after the baby is born in April theyre getting married in May (backwards yes i know but anyway....) ok when the baby is born he is going to call me auntie. my brothers fiance's daugthers call me by my first name. they are 5 and 7 but i think im gonna feel kinda weird with my nephew calling me auntie and his sisters calling me by my first name. i refer to them as my nieces. ok so my question is should i have them call me auntie or not?? i dont know. help me please!!
2007-02-17 09:33:35 · 17 answers · asked by lovely 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The reason why im asking is because i want them to feel excepted and i dont want them to feel like i love my nephew more than i love them because i do love those girls like my blood nieces. my brother and his fiance dont care. i dont want the girls to feel excluded or anything.
2007-02-17 09:39:43 · update #1
my nephew is going to call me auntie or aunt thats not even a question all of my nieces and nephews call me auntie except for the ones older than me.
2007-02-17 09:41:50 · update #2
I think it will be ok either way. The kids know who you are and how you are related to them. If you'd like to, sit w/ the older kids and tell them that since the new baby is coming you'd feel so special if all of them would call you "auntie" and not by your first name alone. Ask them, "Since I am your auntie, would you please make me feel extra special and call me auntie?" And because they are kids, and they love you and want you to feel special, they will and won't even skip a beat. Try it. Good Luck.
2007-02-17 09:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by lamonross80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell those nieces of yours to call you "Auntie (your name)" and tell them that that would be more respectful of them. Now, you can make them keep calling you what they do and have your nephew do the same thing to be fqair to him so you have two choices here: Either have those nieces call you Auntie whatever your name is or when your nephew is born, have him call you by your first name as well. This is the only two options that I see here.
2007-02-17 17:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its what ever you feel comfortable with, and whatever they want to call you. Ask them if they want to call you auntie or not. Does it bother you if they don't?
This next child might not call you Auntie, he /she might call you by your first name as well. Depends on how mom and dad want you to be called also.
I would just say, hey i am aunt (your name), after they get married. If you want to call me that, its fine, if not, i will still like it if you call me (your name). They are old enough to understand
I have 3 neices and nephews that I came into their lives as 'billie, and now i am aunt billie. they adapt
2007-02-17 17:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it all depends on what the kids feel comfortable calling you. My nieces call me by my first name -- we absolutely adore each other. You could sit down with them and ask them if they'd like to call you auntie.
2007-02-17 17:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by GrnEyedBlondeSwede 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it a personal thing some of my nieces and nephews call me auntie some dont x
2007-02-17 17:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you should let them decide because your brother is going to be their stepdad and your going to be a stepaunt to them but a real aunt to the baby. SO give them time and maybe they will change and maybe not. But just don't force them, because if you do they won't like you as much. SO be happy and don't worry as long as they don't call you bad names it's all cool.
2007-02-17 17:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure. You will officially be the aunt but remember it's going to be up to your new sister in law. They're her kids and it sounds like she'll make the rules. It is great to see that you will look at them all equally.
2007-02-17 17:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by ireallydoknowitall 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My nephew has always called me by my name. I feel uncle is to formal for a close relative.
2007-02-17 17:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
chances are they might start calling you auntie without u telling them if u like them better to call you auntie you can ask them. congrats!
2007-02-17 17:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by ReRe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked your brother and his fiancee how they feel about it? If they have no issues, then why not? After all a rose by any other name...
2007-02-17 17:37:17 · answer #10 · answered by Rabbit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋