I love him and not even distance or time can kill this love, and i will never have him, he belongs to another woman and i love him even mor because he decided not to cheat on his wife with me, i don`t want to have a relationship with him, i respect his marriage and i always will, but i am afraid i will love him for the rest of my life, be alone but with him on my mind all the time.This has been going on for a long time and i havent seen him for a long time also, but my feelings for him ar as strong as the first day i realized i loved him. I don`t want to do this to myself anymore, i would like to be able to fall in love with another man, get married and have children. I have tried talking to another men, searching for a partner, but i realized i search for him all the time.tell me what to do to forget him, please, i can`t live like this anymore.
2007-02-17 09:33:12 · 7 answers · asked by terracotta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The pain and anguish caused by unrequited love never gets any easier, I'm sorry to say. From the time I was a teenager, I developed a pattern of falling for the ones I couldn't have. This was NOT intentional, I can assure you, but that's the way things turned out. Now I am 51, with one sham of a marriage long behind me. I never got the chance to have children, and now it's too late! For the past 10 years, I have wasted my love on a gay man whom I had hoped and prayed would change - but this, too, was all in vain.
I don't mean to discourage you, but you must be realistic. Pinning your hopes on a man who loves his wife and plans on staying faithful to her is about as hopeless as loving a man who's into other men. There ARE no easy answers. I agonize over the man I STILL love with all MY being at 51, just as much as I agonized over my FIRST love at 15! Perhaps even more, in fact, but I'm still working on that.
You have but ONE option, dear. You MUST find productive diversions to keep yourself occupied. You probably just want to pull the covers up over your head, and not have to deal with all the misery. I know that feeling. But you will only hurt yourself worse in doing so. It may take a long, long time to fall in love again, but you will. Just be glad you are still young enough to have that future family to look forward to. Don't be like me, and waste away all your best years in life, pining away for someone who is unavailable. Best of luck to you....
2007-02-17 10:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him for the rest of your life. However, you may also be holding on to an ideal image of love so that you don't have to deal with the reality of having a relationship with another man. That sounds harsh, I know.
Time will help. Just be open to meeting new people and don't try to make something happen.
2007-02-17 17:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by Oh, Bama! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else with similar values, and translate that longing into finding someone better. You should have tried to stop seeing him after you first found yourself falling for him, because you caused yourself a lot of pain. Just stick to your morals and find someone worthy of you and pray that he start feeling love for his wife again by staying away from him.
2007-02-17 17:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by A L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to therapy. Its not healthy to obsess over someone like. Especially because you two dont even have a relationship. See a psychologist.
2007-02-17 17:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by S A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a job.go out.spend some time with some one frinds,coluges etc
put ur mind on some thought othr than on him.be engaged with some activity or other.Keep urself busy rest wil happen by itself.
2007-02-17 17:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Deep eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously it's not meant to be so move on because he isnt interested and he is married! Stop wasting your time on something that will never happen.
2007-02-17 17:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by toymod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find another guy
2007-02-17 18:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by US 3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋