He has her for 2 nights a week, and I have the other 5 nights. He doesnt want her to eat pork because of his religion. However, he does not take her to services, or hasnt done any rites or anything on her like his other kids have had. I dont know how i feel, cause we eat pork around here a lot. Should I stop feeding her pork?
2007-02-17 09:27:16 · 33 answers · asked by Sarah 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
To keep the peace, I would.
2007-02-17 09:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by pepsiolic 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough one, especially if you'll be eating pork in front of her. For the sake of a less-strained relationship, you may want to consider not going the pork route. It depends on your daughter's age. However, her father is going to tell her just why he doesn't believe in eating pork, and the impact this will have may render her porkless for the rest of her life. Of course, the same speech can be given for any animal, so if you're a carnivore explain to her about the proteins in meat and tell her not to kill anything that she won't eat. Wait. Did I just say that? I'm a carnivore (more an omnivore, really) myself. Ask yourself this: Do I want a porkless, porked or porky daughter? And which of these is safest? Do ask her opinion though, prior to any food removal or consumption. Sometimes a simple "Mmmm, honey, doesnt that taste good?" will get you the response you want. I come from a Jewish family, but the only reason we never ate pork is because my Mom hated it. I had a bit over the Christmas holiday and my friend's Italian grandmother makes it in a rich tomato sauce (yum-eeeeee!), but the stuff mainly just grosses me out. Watch out for Dad's speech on pigs. If it is truly against his beliefs but he's an OK Dad, you might as well go with the flow. Talk to her about making a decision. Sitting down with both of you will just cause her humiliation because she knows she'll be disappointing one or the other.
BTW: My lover grew up on a farm. Pigs were by far the cleanest animals. Everyone automatically thinks "mud" but pigs wash themselves as well if not better than cats. Just don't eat cats. Not much good in cat meat. That's why you're always hungry after a trip to "Moo Shu" down the block. Not enough protein.
2007-02-17 11:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pork really isn't good for you anyways. It lead to increased blood pressure and high cholesterol. In my household, I am the only one who does not eat pork. But on the other hand, I am the only religous person.
A person once told me something about pork that I don't know if it is true or not, but was kind of disgusting. He told me that pigs don't sweat because they have no sweat glands. That is one reason why they are the cleanest animals externally. But internally, it is disgusting. Since they don't sweat, when you eat pork you are eating thier excrements. That is why pork is so salty.
And on a religous answer, it is what they call not kosher or halal. Even jesus was known to have casted a legion into a pig which jumped off of a cliff. Not even jesus ate pork, so why do christians eat it. I thought christians were supposed to do as jesus did. And if you are not religous, referr to paragraph above.
And on a down to earth answer, I take it she has no religion(of the abrahamic-pbuh faith). Otherwise she would have taken it upon herself not to eat pork. And if she is christian, referr to paragraph above. Pork is not healthy, but I am sure is mighty scrumptous to most. If you are feeding her pork out of spite for your ex husband, then that is not right at all. Not saying that is what the dilema is, but I "know" women can be very vindictive. And if that is the case, you are making her have malice that she does not even know about(from a religous point of view). Not a sin, but malice. And definetaly not legal. But me being a religous person would not feed her swine. You can decide from here with the info I provided on your decision. It will ultimately be your decision.
Or you can just tell her what her father has requested and leave the decision to her. Take care!
PEACE!
2007-02-17 10:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by xpected 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A person doesn't have to go to services or to church to be a religious/spiritual person. Some people hold the not eating of unclean meats as keeping the commandments of God. Some people have even been martyred for refusing to eat pork. What is your religious affiliation? If you aren't strong in it, then I see no reason to follow the wishes of your ex-husband. If you are the custodial parent, and you hold your religion in high regard you may want to go in that direction. If you don't care, it is a very sound thing to do for health reasons as well as religious reasons.
2007-02-17 09:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Christine5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pork isnt good for you anyhow why not? I dont know how old your child is but some religons dont bring children under certain ages into services and maybe thats is why he hasnt done this yet.
It sounds like you and the father need to talk about how/if/what religon the child is going to be raised with or in, it doesnt sound like you have discussed this at all.
2007-02-17 09:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pork is tasty and it saved europe from caresty periods.
Moreover is a very clever animal. You could compare its intelligence with the one of a baby(It is proved to be mor clever than an ape).
In Italy we eat a lot of salami, hams and stuf like that and we have a lot of people over 100; so I wouldn't say that it is unhealthy.
I like a lot pork meat, beside that poor clever pork ;-)
2007-02-17 22:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Marco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hhm... leaving all religious aspects aside for the moment... it's very unhealthy food. I'd stop, if I were you for health reasons mainly, with the side effect that you will have peace with your daughter's father on this. We don't eat pork for health reasons in our family. I am aware that pork is the cheapest meat (at least where I live), but we don't have meat everyday, so that saves us some money again. Feeding children healthy is very important.
2007-02-17 09:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, pork isnt that healthy ,, she is the daughter of both of u not just yours ...when u agreed to have kids in the first place u knew these diffrences in religions would affect the child...so anyway what i think that u should agree on one thing together ...the kid wont die if she didnt eat pork ...but if u decided she eats pork then u are gonna have to tell her father
good luck :)
2007-02-17 09:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. What is served at your table is your business, particularly when he's not there. Unless he wants to start buying your food. Lamb and beef are much more expensive than pork. I wouldn't make a big deal about it...and by this I mean don't mention it. She probably won't. My aunt refers to pork roas as "roast beast" to get her picky kids to eat it. Don't pick a fight with him, but do feed her what you want. It's not like she's drinking beer or turpentine.
2007-02-17 11:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feed her pork and let her make the decision of what religion to follow and what to eat when she grows up.
2007-02-17 09:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you. There is no right answer.
Do you want to make your baby's daddy happy? Then stop feeding her pork, or claim that you have stopped feeding her pork. It all hinges on your relationship with him - it has nothing to do with religion.
2007-02-17 09:36:03 · answer #11 · answered by NONAME 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋