He has her for 2 nights a week, and I have the other 5 nights. He doesnt want her to eat pork because of his religion. However, he does not take her to services, or hasnt done any rites or anything on her like his other kids have had. I dont know how i feel, cause we eat pork around here a lot. Should I stop feeding her pork?
2007-02-17 09:25:13 · 35 answers · asked by Sarah 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2007-02-17 09:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by dexter 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I was in the very same position. I do not believe in the eating of pork and I asked my child's mother not to feed it him. I too had the child only two days a week but i was dedicated to him. If you want to have a good "working" relationship with the child's father and show him that u are a willing partner in the very important task of raising the child then not feeding the child pork is a small thing. That was more than 17 years ago my son is now in college and can now make decisions about what to do or not to do --- the least of which is whether or not to eat pork.
If you operate in good faith then you can't be blamed when things go wrong. Good luck!
2007-02-21 03:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by beatcypher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's two days a week or full time, the baby's father has every right to request you not feed the baby pork because of his religion. Yeah you have the baby 5 days a week vs. his 2 but that doesn't mean your opionion counts more than his. Parenting is 50-50 based on the effort you put into being a parent, not based on the "hours clocked in" due to the fact that you two don't live together.
How would you feel if he totally ignored your wishes regarding your baby. I'm sure you wouldn't like that.
Besides, it's not like he's asking you to circumcise her genitalia...he's asking you to respect his religion and not feed her pork, that's not an unreasonable request.
It's not going to kill her...it's actually healthier for her to not be eating swine anyway.
2007-02-17 10:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by M H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if the kid likes pork feed the kid pork. When she is old enough to decide what to do then go with what the kid wants. Tell the father that he does not make your decisions about your meals you have at your house.
2007-02-17 09:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well. This sounds like he's either Muslim or Jewish, so he may have good reason. However, it doesn't sound like the two of you are married (were you ever?). Ok, here's where I'd get snippy. If you weren't married when she was conceived or born, I'd tell him he doesn't have firm ground to stand on, since you can't pick and choose what aspects of religion you are going to follow...if he broke the "no sex outside of marriage" rule, why worry about eating "unclean" pork? If you were...I'd discuss with him what religion (if any) you follow and your beliefs, and what will be the most likely religion your daughter will follow and go from there. If he isn't giving her a religious background, why is he concerned?
2007-02-17 09:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by babygirlnc 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
don't feed her pork. I'm Muslim and i can't eat pork either. trust me its very bad religiously to eat pork. Its the equal to doing a sin. and if i were you I'm limit the amount of pork you eat around her so its doesn't make her feel bad. also try to explain why it is wrong and stuff. when she gets older she can decide for herself.
2007-02-17 11:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by brainguy222 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try researching his religion a little bit and see if certain ceremonies are performed at certain ages. If not and or child has passed those ages then I would say to continue with your pork. If however, the time has not come I would take that into consideration. Be sure that you ask him to start having your child participate in his religious functions being that he wants the child to follow it. Also, if it is difficult to provide a second meal for your child each night I would also ask him to help with the groceries.
2007-02-17 09:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by SoySrtaBonita 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im gonna say yes. I mean its not fair to bring up the not going to services. I don't really go to church but im still christian. I mean how hard is it to whip up a sandwhich or an alternate lunch on days you guys are having pork. Why not just try respecting his religion.
2007-02-17 11:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not practising his religion with her then he has no right to say what she can and can not eat. He can't force his religion into your home, feed her pork and if she chooses to stop eating it as she gets older then thats her chose. When he goes to her house, he doens't need to give her pork.
2007-02-17 10:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no!
she lives with you. and sees him 2 times a week. as far as i am concerned, you are the constant thing in her life and what you say is the rules. he can have an opinion, but maybe it would be different if he took her to services and actually tought her about it. why should she stop eating pork if she does not even know why?
2007-02-17 09:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by jiggamaboo 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Pork is really bad for an adult and for a child its worse. But if your babys fathers asks you not to you shouldn't at least until she is old enough to understand the religon and decide for herself.
2007-02-17 10:16:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋