I am in SOOOO much pain............?

Question

How do people deal with the pain from likeing someone when they don't like you back? or they may like you back but sometimes they seem to like you and sometimes they are more distant) I feel miserable and I keep thinking about what we said the last time we saw eachother. I keep wondering if I said the wrong things or in the wrong way.There was no fight but he seemed more distant. I replay everything over and over and its driving me mad! I am waiting for him to call but I am nervous that he won't. I refuse to call him because I think its better not to. I want him to feel the same but I realize you can't make those things happen. I would just like to forget him because I don't like feeling this way. My heart won't let me and keeps me hoping for more contact.
Has anyone ever felt like this, second guessing their words & actions and blaming themselves if the guy doesn't like you the same. What can I do?? Please help me.

Answer 1

lets see if i got this figured out...you were blunt, maybe a bit rude, he listened, considered your comment, and withdrew...
now you wish you had just tolerated whatever it was [?], because you think you were out of line.. is that close?,so far..?
and you dint want to reopen a communication with him because ... "its better not to..?"....
Yup..been there ...done that. Eventually the realization that there were some un-synchronized signals between my mind and my heart became clear, and things just solved themselves...more or less.
Alto, the tendency to exaggerate one or the other investment in a relationship hasn't exactly gotten any more graceful,over the years, at least i now employ some 'thought' before i let my canary *** over load my hippo mouth.
Let your obviously mature sense of ethics settle your indecision...be cordial, polite, attentive, respectful, honest , and candid with him the next time you meet, and make it a point to mention your situational emotive consequence following the disruption...he will listen then, as he did previously, and then accept what ever comes next.
The ball is his...let him make the call.

Answer 2

Well I been there and done that. My best advice to u is to move on. Don't keep to much hope he will feel the same cause it hurts u the more and more u wait. The best thing to do is move on hang out with friends do things u rarely do. If he feels the same about u he will call eventually once he realizes but if he doesn't then theres ur answer. The more u hang @ waiting the more he will seem distant. So just move on it will not be easy but it will be good for u. Plus maybe there is someone out there for that will appreciate ur feelings and feel the same way but u will never know till u learn to stop waiting for that one dude. Oh yea don't call him either and just let him call u. well later

Answer 3

I know dear how much it hurts. I've been there before, maybe twice.

You will found out why it happened cause I found out too, over time.
I found out the guy had another girl whom he's been with for a long time, and he wouldn't take her out bcoz he had too many female attractions, and he wanted to keep that relationship low profile so as not to disappoint those female flirts inluding me. After 1 year, I thought that we could go on the next level, but I realised he was using me as his booty call bcoz we never met publicly during the day. He was so romantic only when we met privately at his appt or over the phone. He always acted distant at the right moment when he saw the possibility that I could confront him about where "'we" are going. I wanted to be more to him,and it hurt me so bad. One day I couldn't take it anymore and confronted him about my feelings and why he was not telling me we are a couple, and he dropped the bombshell. He said we were just two adults having fun, but he has his girl waiting for him.
I was so mad and felt used.
So this could be a reason with ur guy too. He either has his steady girlfriend out of town and he 's waiting for her to come back, and he doesn't want to get too close to you for that. Or he desires to be with another women, but is just keeping you for now.He is distant so that it will be easier for him to break up with no strings attached. Move on, before he moves out!

Now I've met something who is the best things that happened to me, and I'm glad I had the power to love again.

Answer 4

That guy knows exactly how you feel and is playing on your feelings...We all want what we can't have sort of speak....Trash him and let him go the world is over populated with men there is at least 10 million more fish in this sea of ours