My boyfriend is Mexican and his some of his family can speak english(except his mom)
I can't speak Spanish
He wants Mexican music at the wedding for his family and I want engish music
I don't think we should be paying for someone to play music that we both don't like because his family
My family would probably leave the wedding if they heard that kind of music
Some of my family do speak spanish and have came to the US from Argentina but they don't like the same music he want to play
I said we could play something like Salena, JLo or paulina
What can I do I hate cumbias and durangase
2007-02-17 09:02:22 · 12 answers · asked by Peacen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Oh and his family hates me and My family hate my boyfriend
His family don't even plan on dancing
2007-02-17 09:14:06 · update #1
Well hopefully you'll be able to find a dj who can accomadate both musical preferences. If you are getting married in the United States, where the language is english, then your fiance AND his family should expect to hear English music. If you were going to Mexico, then you could expect to hear Mexican music. I am really getting tired of hearing how Americans have to relentlessly coddle the idea that our language/music has to be in Spanish. Enough Already! They are the ones who need to appreciate the English language, not the other way around. Good Luck.
2007-02-17 09:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about mostly English stuff that you both like with a stray Mexican something thrown in here and there. Like 5-10% Mexican music and 90-95% English. Don't forget, these people are probably going to bring you gifts or money so what does a few songs hurt. Congratulations and Good Luck!!! :)
2007-02-17 09:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by Valkyrie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you have both types of music at different points in the ceremony then have a mix of all music a the reception. I don't mean to be harsh, but if your family would leave the wedding if they heard "that kind of music", then they are inconsiderate and rude and probably prejudice enough they wish you weren't marrying him to begin with. This is your (as in you and he) wedding and I think the wedding and reception should incorporate BOTH the bride & grooms cultures. If you hate the cumbias & durangase then you aren't very accepting of him and his culture, maybe you would re-think this union.
2007-02-17 09:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mickey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To Mexicans its tradition to pay someone to play Mexican music at weddings. You can also play English music too. Have a mix of both to represent each side. It would be awfully rude for people to leave because of music.
2007-02-17 09:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by xo_cuddly_kitten_xo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there is so much hate going on, I can't understand why there is a wedding being planned.
Have whatever you want for your wedding; ceremony, music, food, etc.
Those that love you & your fiance and want to share this with you will attend & be happy with whateverchoice you have made. The others don't really matter, now do they?
Ps. Personally, I'd rethink this whole wedding thing for awhile.
2007-02-17 09:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember, this is your and your (future) husband's day. if your parents have such a problem with spanish music... and they leave, that's ridiculous and you need to talk to them about that. i think you should sit down with both families and try to find a happy medium.
i dont know if you'd be into this, but live music is SOO much better than a cd or dj. you should look into a spanish band that knows english and can play both spanish music and english music. it'd be a blast!! if that gets old you could always resort to some cds.. but go live. it's so much fun.
2007-02-17 09:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by justbreathe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to honor both your heritages, after all you children will be a mixture of both of you and you don't want them feeling that one side is less than the other. Get a DJ who is willing to play all sorts of music and speak to your family in advance so they know that both types of music will be played. If they still want to walk out then you must wonder what they will think of your husband and how well they will accept him and his heritage. Music is a symbol of joy, don't make it into a nasty argument.
2007-02-17 09:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by justa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When it comes down to it, it's really your wedding. play music that you both enjoy and add a few songs that him and his family like and add some songs that you and your family like. have a mix of everything but mostly music that you and your hubby-to-be will enjoy and remember. It's your wedding :)
2007-02-17 09:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try a more universal type of music(a happy medium betwen both)... something soft but not too soft to were you cant dance to it and enjoy yourself, but nothing thats going to scare the guests..
2007-02-17 09:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by austin_dude 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aren't you marrying somebody here? You make it sound like it's just your wedding! Who cares if you hate it, if it means something to him then suck it up!
If you're being this selfish now, I would hate to see what you're like after the wedding.
2007-02-17 09:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by Lalalalalala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋