I keep blaming myself?

Question

Two years ago this week my friend died. He was only 17 he was 2 weeks away from his 18th birthday, and a few moonths away from graduation. He was going to go to college to become a youth minister. He and his mom and dad died in a fire, leaving behind a siser who is only like 25. The night of his fire I was angry at god that my life was not going good. I was in a bad place, my friends where making me mad, my job sucked and I felt I was going no where. I told the lady I worked with that I knew what was going to happen the next day I was going to wake up go to class and come to work like I did every day nothing would change. She told me that I never knew what god would bring me day to day. I never knew who would be here today and gone tommrow. That night my friend died. I keep feeling like if I had not challenged god that mayb he would still be here. Whats wrong with me.

I want to say a sincere thank you for he people who gave me answears that tried to help. In saying that I challenged god I should have put I ? him on life. For you people that have nothing better to do then kick a person when they are down. Thanks alot.

Answer 1

You're being ridiculous! What happened wasn't because you "challenged God"! It was a horrible accident, but certainly not something you did. You give yourself too much power and credit! Grieve for your friend, that's normal, but you aren't GOD, stop pretending to be! Move on with your life and make God and your friend PROUD!!

Answer 2

The only thing that's "wrong" with you is that you're hurting and feeling guilty because you wonder if being mad at God is what caused your friend's death. The answer to that is an unequivocal "NO!"

God didn't punish you by taking your friend. God loves you and wants what's best for you. I don't understand why such a promising young man was taken from us, either, but I do know that God will somehow bring good out of this terrible thing in the lives of those who love Him and are called together according to His purpose.

This world is not perfect, and tragedies happen through accident, error, or malice. God was with your friend the night that he died, just like God is with you right now, wanting to be your Friend and Comforter.

I think that it might be a good idea to talk to your pastor or a Christian counselor. They can help you work through the pain of losing a friend in such a terrible way and guide you.

I'm really sorry for your loss, and I'm sure that your friend wouldn't want you to blame yourself in any way -- not even for a moment.

Answer 3

The only thing you did wrong was to give your heart to a selfish and immature person who didn't deserve the respect and love you gave her. Your jealousy at the fact a man who only knew her a week gave her money is understandable. The reason you still think about her is because she obviously played mind games with you so much that she had your mind warped. So that you would continue to stay with her as a safety net, whom she didn't truly love, while she played around. You could sit there and rehash this bad relationship in your mind over and over, or you could take a deep breath, gather your strength (you still have some, I promise) and find the courage to move on and find someone wonderful who deserves you! I will be rooting for you!

Answer 4

Let me tell you a true story. My father died when I was 7 of a heart attack. The evening before I was playing with an umbrella in the house and my aunt told me not to open it in the house because that means someone will die. I opened it anyway. Am I afraid to open an umbrella in the house now? No. I am not afraid of umbrellas and you should not be afraid of God. Some things just happen. God would not take someone's life to punish you. God is a good God. And He loves you and your friend. God bless.

Answer 5

Sorry for your loss.

You are not to blame for what happened. You did not challenge God in such a way that He would take the life of your friend and his parents.

You may have been angry with God, but He is not angry with you. Take some time to relax and talk with God. Tell Him how your feeling and what you need. God is always there to listen.

Keep the Faith, God Loves you.

Answer 6

Your friend died because of the fire. God did not kill him, and you bear no responsibility whatsoever.
Why would God attack somebody because of your beliefs?
Not to be disrespectful or insensitive, but the Almighty Providential Ruler of the Universe does not restructure his entire plan for creation based on our moods.
And God does not get irate when we challenge him, doubt him, hate him, or question him. All of those emotions are well within the scope of humanity. In Scripture, the guys who get angry and challenge God usually turn out to be the greatest prophets and theologians.

Answer 7

There's nothing wrong with you, you're grieving - self blame is a normal part of the grieving process for a lot of people. You may need some help in realizing it wasn't you - because it wasn't. If you were happy and blessing God that day, the fire still would have happened.

Answer 8

If God was that disgusting a person I don't think he'd be worth worshipping in the first place.

You didn't contribute to your friends death.

I've challenged god a few times, even asked him to show up for a fist fight and nobody i cared about ever died. If they did it wouldnt be because of any conversations with mythical characters.

Answer 9

I think the bigger question here is: If you honestly think that your God would kill three people just to stick out His tongue at you and go "Nyah, nyah, take THAT, boy!"... dude, what kind of God are you worshipping?

Your co-worker's remark was just a horrible coincidence. (Either that, or you need to change Gods.) But seriously, I doubt you had anything to do with your friend's death. Don't let the guilt tear you apart. A therapist might really be able to help you put things in perspective.

Answer 10

haha you have any idea how that sounds. pretend i put that there and tell me what your answer will be. silly rabbit the only reason why you feel like that is because of what that person told you NOW even if she never said that to you sadly but true the fire will still happen and you wouldn't be asking this question. I'm so sorry for your lose but don't let it eat you i bet your friend wouldn't want that.