i get angry over the most unimportant things i got therapy but useless what should ido?

Answer 1

excercise, do some yoga, meditate, breathe, etc
take the time to relax and chill out

Answer 2

First of all, the fact that you realize this is a problem is a step in the right direction.

Therapy is only as good as the therapist and your willingness to participate in a plan. If it didn't work out, you might try another professional and see if you have better luck.

I tend to fly off of the handle rather easily, especially when I deal with my kids. Stupid people also get on my last nerve, but that is beside the point.

I have found the best thing I can do it try to begin the day with a good attitude. I try to take some time before resonding to people, so I don't give "off the cuff" answers that I will regret later.

Ultimately you have to get to the point that you begin to realize that you are in control of your emotions. If you allow people or things to make you angry, you are giving them the control over you and over your life. Someone that can make you angry, controls you...bottom line. In the end, our outbursts and unreasonable fits of anger makes us look bad, and can affect our relationship with those around us. You have to find an outlet, something that makes you happy. A happy person tends to be able to take things in stride. Just start telling yourself...this isn't such a big deal. I mean really, at the end of the day, does it really matter? If the answer is no, then try not to sweat it. Learn to blow things off that really don't matter in the big scheme of things.

I know, easier said than done. But you can do it, you just have to make up your mind that you are going to be in control, even if it means shrugging some things off when your first reaction is to fight about it.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I use to be the very same way. And my husband brought it to my attention once when i blew up at him. I really had to face my "inward demon" so to speak and I realized I had a serious problem that was affecting my relationship with spouse and other people. For months, I tried self-control but it didnt help because I would get angery so unexpectively and felt like crap afterwards. Finally, being a Christian, I prayed for help with this problem and, praise GOD, I am so mcuh better! I had to learn that small things were just that..small things. And I also learned that I had a CHOICE how I wanted to react to all things. And in the midst of learning about anger I saw a teaching on anger that really helped set me FREE from its grips. My thoughs on anger was wrong and had me in an emotional bondage. The TRUTH really will set one FREE. Now I laugh at problems. everyday mishaps and am healthier, happier and calmer. Dont get me wrong. the FIRE is still there, but I have chosen to keep the lid on it by greater understanding. So first take a true look in the mirror and confess that you need help in this area and seek out good Christian books on the subject and teachings. Whether you are a Christian or not, the information will still help you. Of course, my spouse was the first to see a difference and was glad that he didnt have to always so cautious around me. I desired strongly that we live in harmony with each other and I wanted to enjoy life not be upset about something all the time. Anger overshadows love, but love can overtake anger when we choose to surender its power.




LAUGH MORE and LIVE HAPPIER!!*

Answer 4

When you feel yourself starting to get angry. Say to yourself,"Don't go there." Then take a deep breath and count to however long it takes you to regain CONTROL OF YOUR ANGER. I tried to teach my kids not to waste emotions like anger, or tears for things that are just not that important. Also, ask yourself, will this matter next week? next year? Try to remain on an even keel as it is hard on you to lose control. It is very stressful. Plus, it may be stressing out those around you. Just remember, emotion should not be wasted!

I think part of anger may be fear and frustration, ( I know mine is). If you lose your temper, you will not be able to think as well as if you had controlled it.

I wish you good luck, as it is hard to overcome. But it can be done! And you can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Either try a new therapists that will work for you or maybe try Buddhism it teaches you to let go of things like anger and to live in the moment.
I used to be very angry myself until that anger started to interfere with my life and alienate me from people whom I love. You could also try getting into something like yoga or meditation or even a high impact sport to help you release they anger that way ( I have friends that work out to release their anger).
Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

oo this is a tough 1!! when your angry you feel that no1 is listning to you and that no1 cares - trust me i no exactly how u feel! ive been ther and done tht! First of all though stop yourself thinking of all the negatives and more on the positive!! then calm your self down by listnin to music or watching tele! trust me it works!!
just bear with it, you can get through it!!!

Answer 7

Narcissism. Like Facebook itself. It's all about someone talking about themselves and their life. Who cares? They believe you'll read about them, want to be like them, and then if it works, things like Justin beiber would disappear because nobody would like him. Mutual respect is lacking. That's why people don't ignore people they don't like. They feel they need to start a hate campaign until everyone thinks how they think. A self centered individual's perspective of the world=Narcissism.

Answer 8

You have gotten consistent good advice from the other responders. If you follow their suggestions you should achieve good results.
Men frequently convert fear into anger. You might also want to think about that

Answer 9

DONT BE SO OPINIONATED TO THE POINT WHERE YOU EXPLODE OVER ANYTHING. BE OPEN TO EXISTENCE AND HAPPENINGS IN OTHER WORDS IN YOUR MIND DONT SLAM THE DOOR ON ANYTHING OTHERWISE THE BEAUTIFUL EQUILIBRIUM WHICH YOU DO HAVE, BELIEVE IT OR NOT, GETS SQUELCHED AND BECOMES NON-EXISTENT. THAT DOESNT MEAN PEOPLE SHOULD WALK ALLOVER YOU ETC ETC ETC ETC. NO! ILL JUST SAY WHATEVER THE CIRCUMSTANCES " HANDLE IT " MANAGE IT. ! IN OTHER WORDS SOLVE IT SMOOTHLY AND EFFICIENTLY AND MOVE ON , ! ! ! ! BE HAPPY AND FRIENDLY AND STAY THAT WAY , DONT DROP INTO THE DOLDRUMS THEN HIGHER THAN A KITE ETC ETC ETC STAY NICE,FRIENDLY HAPPY AND DONT LET NEGATIVISM IN THE DRIVERS SEAT. YOUR IN CHARGE ! ! ! NOW! DO IT !

Answer 10

Watch "Anger Management". Adam Sandler is outRAGEous in that movie. Get it?

Answer 11

hi
you say you got therapy
you should go back and get an anger management course and stick with it until you know you dont need it any more =i did and it worked for me