I just recently joined a Ballroom Association and taken on a new dance partner. I knew he had an attraction to me and I thought I would be able to control my attraction to him, but it seems I was wrong. The problem: I have a boyfriend! I feel like my attraction to my dance partner might be strengthened by the fact that I am in a long-distance relationship 7 months out of the year. I don't want to enter a relationship with my dance partner because I'm in love my boyfriend. But, my dance partner is determined to pursue me even though he knows I have a boyfriend! I've tried my best to say "no" to my dance partner's many efforts, but I think he takes it as "try harder!" (Okay, I come off as a little flirty.) But, this needs to stop before something terrible happens. I don't want to make things weird because it’s not possible to just GET a great dance partner to compete with. How do I say "you need to stop dropping by, calling me sweetheart and asking me out!" in a way that's not offensive?
2007-02-17 08:19:17 · 13 answers · asked by dumdum4eva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just say " I really apprecitate that you think this way of me, but i have a boyfriend and i really love him, I'm just asking if you could respect my relationship because it's really important to me and i dont want to mess it up. I'd really appreciate it if you just gave me space for a while ,please." or something like that
2007-02-17 08:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by .:Zany:. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is ONLY ONE way to stop this. You will not like it. Join a new dance club. Tell your dance partner to Tango with some other woman. If he is not mature enough to just have you for the dance on the floor then you will Foxtrot off to another place. Don't Waltz around the problem, as you will not be able to Swing your way out of this Salsa, situation. Give your mind a Break dance and leave while your Square partner is spinning from your NO's. Leave now. Don't keep Dipping or Spinning. End the Music .....Stop Period. Good Luck
2016-05-23 23:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this wrong, I mean no offense, but long distance relationships NEVER work out in the long run. This is just the way it is. I would say if your not married, and attracted to your new dance partner, go for it. I assume your in your teens or your twenty's, and in my opinion this is the time to date as many people your interested in. And I don't mean sleeping around, just find out who and what you really like and want out of a partner. Again, not trying to be insensitive to your current relationship. Best of luck!
2007-02-17 08:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by mike9626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay here goes the truth hurts but someone has to say it. You admitted to being attracted to this guy and being flirty. YOU are putting the vibes out, either stop it with this guy completely even if he is a good dance partner, because if your relationship is important to you, you will put it first, or give up your relationship. You have to figure out which is more important.
2007-02-17 08:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some guys that will not take no for an answer and your dance partner seems to be one of them. The only thing I would suggest is to get a new dance partner. There seems to be no other alternative. Good luck
2007-02-17 08:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by Girls! Girls! I do adore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel.. But just think about your bf for a sec. I guess you really love him and just think about the pain you'd cause him if he even read this .. Stay faithful tell that dance partner of yours to take a flying ****..
2007-02-17 08:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by trancellin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's being a jerk. get a new dance partner! he's not respecting you at all. you cant be flirty at all...youre way too close ...youre dancing together for goodness sakes! best to find a new dance partner!! peace
2007-02-17 08:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey your not married so unless the guy is sick in the hospitail or in the military overseas you can have all the fun you want . go for it have this guy too . no one will know and who knows he might be the greatest lover of your life. so just relax and let some of the boys go for a ride on your bike its all fun and one day you will be married and think hey i sure wish i did that one or the other guy . have them all now while your still free.!!!!!
2007-02-17 08:26:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you throw a fast ball between two close rocks without hitting one or the other...chances are it that ball you threw hit's just one of the rocks it will bounce back and hit the other one to, you can still get your ball back, " so to speak " but would you be willing to throw it again...
2007-02-17 08:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just explain to him that you really don;t want to be in a relationship with him and hurt you boyfriends feelings and he'll back off
2007-02-17 08:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by butterfly girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋