Since around 3 yo my stepson has had increasingly bad bahavioral problems at his mom's and at school. The teachers describe him as out of control and always in trouble. His mother often calls to complain of his being out of control and hitting, kicking or not listening to her. This is shocking to us as he is wonderful here. At her home, he is constantly around her family who is constantly fighting. They yell and fight and throw things, the cops are often called. Many of their relatives are as my stepson says "sick because of drugs." Her current husband has repeatedly visited prison for burglary and etc. My stepson often tells me he feels sad at home and no one pays attention to him. We are constantly setting up school meetings and inviting his mom. Begging her to change and do better, but he only ends up in trouble for talking to us. Her answer is to put him on meds for ADD, which he doesn't have. How do we get him in court if the courts always go for the mother?
2007-02-17 08:05:50 · 7 answers · asked by okydoky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your best be is to take the courts documenting his behavior. If the police have been out to the home they must have filed a report or have at least documented that they went out to that address. Have you guys considered getting this kiddo into some therapy? Who has the majority of parenting time? How old is this child? How does his father feel about the situation? The courts aren't concerned that Mom's BF is in and out of jail? That alone is a safety concern. If this child truly is having issues at his mother's home the courts may be willing to amend the custody agreement. But that can only happened if you have proof that this child is having trouble. The court system i s changing. Fathers have rights too. The days that children are always left with the mother are soon coming to an end. What's most important is who can provide the best environment for the child. Is the child safe? Is the child stable? How are his behaviors? School work? And meds are not the only treatment for ADD. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-02-17 08:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by Who is that red head??? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While in court tell the situation you jus explained. Get witnesses and proof of the cops going to her house. Have your stepson tell his side of the story and if he doesnt want to live iwth his mom because he isnt happy there, then the judge will listen. Most Judges do what is best for the child, not the mother. Just make sure she doesnt takl bad about YOU in court either. If she does, and you talk bad about her too, the judge will just screw you both and put your son in a foster home. That almost happend to me when my parents were splitting...
2007-02-17 08:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The majority of the time they do favor the mother but if you can prove the family situation that this child is often surronded by violence and drugs for instance if you get a lawyer they can probably get a criminal backround of the address or persons he lives with and you can present that in court also talk to your stepson make sure that he wants to live with you guys and if so is he willing to tell a judge that because this situation can be tramatizing for him aswell but to better his situation you guys are gonna have to fight legally that is .... Good Luck!
2007-02-17 08:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by samiyahlynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the courts do not always go for the mother. document everything that you can take it to court and try for custody. home movies of how the boy is at your home and then teachers reports, recordings of his mother calling and of what the boy has to say about being at his mothers house would go a long way towards changing the custody order.
in this day and age the system trys to do what is best for the child.
2007-02-17 09:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The court dont always go for the mother. keep track of EVERYTHING - all the phone call from everyone, in details, date, time and what was said. If the cops are going over to his house, keep track of that. Take her to court, get the child! If there is drugs in the house, this will effect his behavior, also neglect will too. Meth can transfer from clothes into his skin. This child needs your help, help him- please.
2007-02-17 09:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit wasting time in here and get an attorney. If he is living in a home where he is witnessing people taking drugs you should have no problem getting custody. This child needs saving NOW.
2007-02-17 08:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree get an attorney and save the three year old before it is to late. If he is seeing people doing drugs then you should have no problem getting custody. good luck and god bless. he mimics what he sees meaning the bad behavior he is acting out because his home life sucks.
2007-02-17 10:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋