Watching the person you love, fall in love with someone else?

Question

How do you cope with watching the person you still love, fall in love with someone else.
Like you werent ever there, like you meant nothing.
You are just a glitch in the past, probably wont even be remembered in a few months.
And you witness them falling in love with somebody else.
They were alot of your first times, alot of your first real emotions, yet you seem to be very little to them.
How do you deal with that?

Answer 1

First of all, don't listen to anyone that tells you, "It's simple," because it's NOT. Emotions are never simple.

If they broke up with you, you must remember that they were already mentally over the relationship before it was even over, and it's not that you meant less to them before, they just had a head start on getting over things.

You need to realize that even though your relationship didn't work out, you are still you, and you are great. No matter how the end of the relationship came about, they still lost you, and now you are finally back in the market for someone that actually deserves you.

Don't torture yourself by observing every move your ex makes. I know it's difficult not to, but it doing so doesn't solve anything and will never take you anywhere. Get rid of anything that reminds you of them, and surround yourself with friends, homework, work, your favorite TV show.. Just don't give yourself time to sit around and wallow in your grief.

Answer 2

How do you know they are falling in love? Did you ever think that he's just as hurt as you are, but maybe he's trying to fill that empty space with somebody else? If you were his first girlfriend then you know that everytime they do something together, he compares you to her. Remeber men really are the Master of Disguise. They can hide there emotions better than most women. And if he is hurting he isn't gonna want to show that to you, he's gonna try to move on and put on this front.

For how to deal with it... well you say you love him right? well do you really love him, down to the bone? b/c if you really did truly love him, then his happiness would come first. I know where your coming from when you describe these emotions. I went through them recently myself. But I was able to move on, bc I knew I would rather have my X be happy with someone else, than be with me and be unhappy. I'm not saying it was easy. It wasn't but knowing and accepting that made things go more smoothly

Answer 3

Wow...um, yeah, it's super simple: Move On.

Probably sounds really hard but you just have to do it. Don't think about the person at all, don't dwell on the fact that he doesn't like you and likes someone else - just say it to yourself once and move on - no need to revel in something that'll make you sad. Don't get excited when you hear his name, train yourself to feel no emotion to his presence. Get rid of any physical reminders of him, ask your friends not to bring him up. Don't get jealous or angry at the person he likes, it only shows that you still like him and spending time being angry at the person is the same thing - love and hate are caused by passion so they are the same. The only opposite to both is indifference, and that's what you've got to feel.

He's a person, he's not your whole world.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You really deep down have to examine your heart. Are you really in love with him. for real. Because it is really tiring to love someone that does not love you. Really true love can only go so far if there is only one carrying the relationship. That is what makes being with someone feel so close to someone, it makes you,feel good when that person loves you back. It is a comfort. How much can you really be in love with someone if they don't feel the same? Especially since he loves someone else.That means he is really not considering you. There has to be someone else out there, even if you feel that this is the only one that you will ever find, that is not true. Bottom line is that you want someone who loves u. If they don't why continue chasing after them if that is not wat they want. Move on.

Answer 5

First, show no remorse or ill will. If the new person is likeable for you to this point, never put them down. Let your love know that if it doesn't work out you will be there for them, and also there are things u know u should be doing to stop this, but u won't because u know he-she has they're own mind and heart. Curiosity only keeps them thinking about what could have been, instead of u.

Answer 6

This is beautiful beyond measure. I have witnessed this many times, and still wonder when it will be my time. I had a chance, but lost it 10 years ago when my first love died of pneumonia. Maybe someday, that chance will come again. Still trying to separate the thorns from the roses. If that makes any sense!

Answer 7

Regardless of what it appears to be, everyone remembers their firsts unless they were way too drunk. I was really in love with this girl in college, we broke up, and a few years later I met my future wife, whom I love even more. That does not, however, stop me from at least thinking about that first girl at least sometimes.

Its the cycle of life. You will find someone else, someone better, too.

Answer 8

It is really hard on valentines day i experienced something similar, it hurt a lot to hear that he gave one of my friends a rose and that he likes her. But you always need to remember that it take two people to love not one and even when times are hard you have to keep in your mind that you will one day find who you truely love it's just a matter of searching, but for now sorround yourself with your closest friends get your mind of things and try really hard to leave the past bhind and look towards the future.
good luck.

Answer 9

i can't tell you how you feel and how you are going to feel in couple of months what i can do is tell you I've been there and i know it will hurt but it will get better and let him go he's not worth your tears and i know it will be tough but you will get through it and one day you will find some one who loves you and will not leave you and let me tell you you are better than him and you deserve better he is a jerk and stupid for letting you go just when you see he just walk by like you are happy for him and one day he won't you back take him back then dump him like he did you and show he how it feel to be dumb good luck i hope these will help you get over him

Answer 10

If he loved you then you would still be together. Plus don't watch. Remember there is a reason you two are not together.