I had a boyfriend and we broke up last November. I seemed really fine right after the break-up and was doing well, but then lately I have been getting depressed. It's not his problem at all, but I have to accept the fact that he just did not/does not love me. I've had relationships before and have been heartbroken but I really fell for this guy harder than I fell for anyone else in the past.
2007-02-17 07:48:09 · 11 answers · asked by purringout 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He told me that he thought of me a lot and that it would take him a "very long time" to get over me but... I know I have to move on.
2007-02-17 07:57:40 · update #1
It sucks. I know from personal experience. Its gonna hurt. There is nothing that can be done. But one day oit will hurt a little less and ten the next a little bit less, and his face will start to fade from your memory. Dont get me wrong. If you loved him like I think, you wont ever forget him but it wont hurt anymore. It took me three months to get over the guy I first loved and occasionally I still think of him but I now moved on and Ive been with my current bf for over a year and and I couldnt be happier. I hope that you feel better, hun =)
2007-02-17 07:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww! Yes, breakups are always depressing and so on. Me, I'm an attractive girl I think, 5'9" and 34c and 127 pounds and blonde and so on. But my only two boyfriends... I had to pretty much ask THEM out and madly hint at it, and one was gay and the other had aspergeur's syndrome (mild form of autism, gives you no social skills or ability to comprehend emotions). Both of them admitted they never really liked me at all. I was pissed of course, I'm still friends with the gay one despite him being a jerk at times. Anyways... I dated them both while suffering from clinical depression. I took wellbutrin, which was like being constantly high... when I look back to that time period I realize that taking it made me accept everything, from my boyfriend to my friends to joining tech crew (full of the WORST kids ever, mean lesbians and a twenty year old with crooked teeth and really snobby dorks who weren't even that great) So yeah... I was sadly obsessed with the gay boy, and only dated the other one out of desperation and such and well... yeah it's depressing. So umm... how did I live through it?
I got off my medication and I focused on other things than relationships. Grades, learning, even little hobbies like songwriting and catching up on my reading. Reading is a great thing to do, so is just turning on the tv, watching some cartoons, spending time with your family. And well... now that I'm becoming more confident and realizing that I am great and deserve better and that my relationships do not define me, I think I'll try asking out more guys and being bold. But yeah, if all that isn't enough, read "It's called a breakup because it's broken"
2007-02-17 16:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really sucks. I've been hung up on the same guy for a long time. I won't tell you how long or you'll think I'm mental. I truly cared about him and no matter how hard I try, I can't seem to get over him. Try to think about other guys and see new people.
2007-02-17 15:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by nameless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard and i probably have no right to say this but girl it's over and no matter how difficult it is you still have to move on. you clearly said he "didn't/ doesn't love" you no more so why would you want to be with a person whose got absolutely no feelings for you?
2007-02-17 15:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly: thats a question that nobody else can answer.
it just comes down to a point whn you finally realize that there are better thigns for you, better people, better guys. and until then, ya its really gonna suck. but thats the only thing ive been able to do.
2007-02-17 15:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you eventually get over it and then years later you think back "sheesh why was i so stupid for crying over him"
you need to enjoy your independence and realize you don't need a man to be happy in your life. you need to do take care of things for yourself to make yourself happy and then one day mr. right will come along and everything will fall into place.
2007-02-17 15:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by curious_One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that love is always worth it. Loving with all your heart gives you the worst pain, but it also gives you the best rewards.
"Only music and love can heal the wounded soul" ~Me
2007-02-17 15:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by Moosic 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok i'm srry your thing made me cry thats what i'm going through i have gone through it once before two well did u break up wit him tell him u were wrong and that you r srry well he was very stupid if he broke up wit u go ask him back out before he has a different girl HHHHHHHHHHHHHUUUUUUUUUURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRYYY
2007-02-17 15:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by Kirstyn G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's just going to take time. i cant offer any other advice.
2007-02-17 15:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by John Redcorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait it out. keep searching
2007-02-17 15:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by vulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋