I'm 16 and dating a 23 yr old. I don't care about him at all though, the only reason i'm dating him is because he threatened to kill himself and he's also my bff's brother. I'm in love with this guy my own age who also likes me but isn't ready to leave his gf wut should i do??
2007-02-17 07:35:58 · 29 answers · asked by sexycowgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sexycowgirl - stop acting like a cow. if you're in a relationship with a guy you don't care for, you are nothing but a user and a taker. my advice would be to get rid of all thoughts of boys until you have one you really like, and who likes you equally in return. what you are doing is shallow and extremely selfish. saying that you're with him only because he threatened to "kill" himself is just plain old BS, and nothing but an excuse to justify your own pathetic actions here.
2007-02-17 07:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy you're dating is using emotional blackmail to try to stop you from dumping him. It's very unlikely that he will kill himself if you do dump him, and it's very childish to say such things to you. They're the words of someone who's very insecure. At the end of the day, you can't spend the rest of your life with a guy because he might commit suicide if you leave him, when the fact is that you don't have any feelings for him. You've got to be selfish and do what's right for you, otherwise you'll be really miserable & you'll hate the guy.
The only thing you can do is to try to dump him without twisting a knife in his heart. Don't mention that you love another guy. Just tell him the truth that you don't have strong enough feelings for him. He may love you, but does he really want to be with someone who doesn't feel the same? If he does, then he doesn't actually love you enough anyway.
Good luck...... the old saying 'you've got to be cruel, to be kind' sometimes is right.
IF THERE'S ANY POSSIBILITY THAT HE MAY HARM YOU IF YOU DUMP HIM, DO IT IN A PUBLIC PLACE...CAFE, BUSY STREET ETC. OR DO IT IN A LETTER. Be careful!
2007-02-17 16:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by Starman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're in a very mixed up situation. First, technically you and your current bf are illegal, since you are a minor and he is definitely not. He should be dating someone his own age. Maybe if you put it to him that way he'll be more willing to break up. Secondly, if this other guy likes you, he should have left his current gf the second he realized he wasn't devoted to her. If he won't, then maybe he's just messing with you. Perhaps what you need isn't a bf, but some time being single. You'd be amazed at how great independence can feel.
2007-02-17 15:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by JennyRose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the 23 year old you shouldn't be dating anyway. And enjoy being a teen. And just wait for the 16 year old to be single and see where it leads. You shouldn't be thinking about dating anyways. Besides what does a 23 year old man wants with a 16 year old girl???????
2007-02-17 15:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
23 girl he's too old for you!! Just leave no point of sticking around when your heart an't in the right place! He's 23 I'm sure he'll get over it and plus guys just say they'd kill themselves to make us feel guilty and feel sorry for them! Even though, the other guy isn't available there are a lot of hot guys your own age that are, so why tie yourself down to a guy you don't like!
2007-02-17 15:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by Amy ;) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your bff and tell her that she may need to help you break it off with her brother. If the only reason you are with him is out of pity it is definetely not a healthy relationship. Even if the guy you like is with someone else you will want some time to be single and think things through before jumping into another relationship. Good luck.
2007-02-17 15:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mystic-scorpio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you will feel bad for not complying with someone when they are threatening their own life but you are just delaying their inevitable death. If a person has suicidal thoughts and demands something like a relationship, it is going to end somewhere. Most of times these are empty threats that never happens, and if it were to happen it wouldn't have been your fault anyways.
Leave this guy to start and hope for the best with the guy you currently like.
2007-02-17 15:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your brother about it or better your mother if you can. Priority 1 is you getting away from that older boy immediately! Not that he is dangerous to you or even himself, just that it is a very dysfunctional relationship. Anything dysfunctional can deteriorate into some messed up stuff before you even know what happened! If you cant talk to you brother or mother about it then you need to talk to your current BF and tell him that if he cares for you he needs to let you do what is best for you. What is best for you is to not be with someone so old. One way or another move on. The older guy DOES NOT need to know anything about the guy you really like. PEACE!
2007-02-17 15:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by mattdpickett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, leave the 23 year old, he's WAY to old for you, and if you don't have feelings for him, then what's the point. Stop wasting your time. And if he wants to kill himself, get him some help. Secondly, I think your to young to say you really love someone, especially when they have a girlfriend so you obviously don't spend a ton of time with them and you can't possibly know them very well. And if you are spending a lot if time with him, don't you think he'd be spending time with other girls if you two went out? He sounds like he can't keep his feelings straight, and like he'd be trouble. I say you forget both of them.
2007-02-17 15:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by abacus314 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an adult, you are a child. He is "aiding in the delinquency of a minor" which is against the law. Next time he threatens to kill himself and his brother tell him you'll contact the police with information about you and him as well as his threats to kill his brother. As for the brother, he has a girlfriend and doesn't want to leave her, there is nothing you SHOULD do.
2007-02-17 15:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋