so my boyfriend cheated on me, but i have given him another chance. But as usual it is hard for me to get over the fact that he cheated. So when i feel like i can't take it anymore i tell him its over, and within the next 5 minutes he is at my door telling me to "please dont do this", and " i love you so much" etc etc.Within the last 4 weeks hes like "move in with me" "marry me" , and i admitt i am being a total B**ch to him, i try not to, but sometimes to cant help it.But he puts up with it, and does anything and everything i want.and tells me everyday he wont cheat, and that he only wants me, and is totally devoted to me now. Does this mean he really wants me? and is going to try really hard to be and stay with me?
2007-02-17 07:24:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I'm no expert, but if you've been giving him the b*tch treatment and he's still begging, I think he might be sincere. I'm not a big subscriber to the "once a cheater always a cheater" therory. Its all up to you.
2007-02-17 07:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you cant get over cheating,its over.You are basically gonna punish him forever,thats what it looks like.This doesnt sound too healthy to me,maybe you should really just move on cause you say you have given him another chance but in reality you havent.Eventually and it may take years he will get sick of this and leave when something comes up in his life where he is available and in a better situation to leave you.Counseling is another answer sounds like you both need it if your serious about making a fresh start cause you havent not like this,You can forgive but you will never forget but its not good to keep throwing it up in his face or use it for leverage in an argument 2 yrs. from now. Get therapy or set both of you free.
2007-02-17 15:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by maryann c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me. Dont do it. I had this exact same experience. Well I actually did marry the guy and guess what hes still a cheater. I should have taken the advice of my friends and just dumped his ***. Now i want out of my marriage more than anything and just dont have the guts to do it. Mine says he was goign to try hard to not let it happen again yet he has done it 3 more times in less than a year. Dont do it.
2007-02-17 15:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a possibility that he knows he made a mistake and wants you back. However, if he cheated once he is capable of doing it again and you may never be able to trust him. There are plenty more people out there and I recommend you move on, you need someone who will treat you properly and you can trust, I don't think you will ever get that from him.
2007-02-17 15:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds VERY sorry and wants to make amends with you, and if you accept this you must forgive him and start a NEW life together, you can not harp on the past, but believe me if you feel you can not trust him then do not let him back into your life. If you feel he is really SORRY then close that door and start a new life together, because there is no real relationship without trust.
2007-02-17 15:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to start back into a relationship after the trust has been broken. if you find that you can trust him again then go for it. but you know if they do it once it can happen again. read tips on relationships and more to help you better on this site
2007-02-17 15:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as hard as this is to type, once a cheater always one. he is keeping you on the side for security for sex,money, or whatever you have to offer him. if he really wanted you and loved you he would of not cheated. my grandmother used to say "if you cant trust them, you dont want them"...and i live by that..
2007-02-17 15:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by dawnlovesbob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make him prove himself to you. If you don't & if he gets a good hold on you ,it will be worse than the first. Don't let him think or speak for you.
2007-02-17 15:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by born again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard 2 tell if you truly belive him and what he says go wit your gut if you think he is lying and it wil happen again dont just go with yur gut and belive what you think
2007-02-17 15:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋