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Everyone keeps telling me to go out and work on myself, do new things, enroll in classes, etc, but I just CAN'T. All I think of is what he is doing and where he is, and how I want to see him. Is therapy the answer?
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2007-02-17 07:10:08 · 11 answers · asked by im always right ya know 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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At least I can admit I have a problem
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2007-02-17 07:10:28 · update #1
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We were together for 6 years, from age 20-26
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2007-02-17 07:18:02 · update #2
u just miss him thats all
2007-02-17 07:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by ARSENAL FC 4 LIFE!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you don't need therapy. Everyone goes through this at some point in there life. Don't pay $100 an hour to talk to someone about it. Getting over someone is one of the most difficult things you may do, because it can control your mind at all times.
This is going to sound really stupid, but the easiest way to get over someone is to find someone else. (If you don't believe me, ask my ex girlfriends).
But never compare your ex to a new guy. Hang out with your friends a lot, and get out of your house, go out and you will meet a nice guy. Don't jump into another relationship and get stuck with a rebound, but date and have fun. Your ex will be regretting it in no time.
Stop pitying yourself, that will never help. He didn't deserve you.
2007-02-17 07:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time either way. maybe you guys get back together, who knows. don't listen to all these people that tell you to move on, find a new man, etc. Your feelings test how you really feel about him...go with it. Over time, if it doesn't work out you will just naturally find someone else but go ahead and crave him now. in my opinion, it's a healthy thing and it's real life. good luck, i hope it works out. i have been trying to get my ex gf back and it is damn hard work. she is tough and stubborn, but she has yet to tell me to get lost forever and even thanked me for a few things I sent her. that surprised me...see, even the most seemingly hopeless situations can show some hope.
2007-02-17 07:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do whatever you can to occupy yourself, tell yourself over and over this is not what I need anymore, and remember the reason as to why you broke up in the first place, and how unhappy you were? Worrying about what he is doing is only going to make yourself sick and feel desperate. Move on and find new relationships, this will have to eventually make you get over him. You can be your own therapist, or friends and family can help, seeking help on the outside can make you sometimes feel worse or more confused.
2007-02-17 07:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by missytoes29 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Therapy would probably be good :) Talking to someone who can give real advice without being judgmental is always good in a situation like yours, since family and friends can sometimes get pushy.
Pack away everything that reminds you of him, dont torture yourself looking at the things he gave you.
It takes time, but you'll bounce back! good luck!
2007-02-17 07:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by independent101 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obsession really sucks. You gotta get hold of your life and move on. Find another guy. Have a casual affair. Enjoy yourself. Listen to your friends. Time will heal the way you feel. Believe me. It does.
2007-02-17 07:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by voodoo man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are right. Change your habits, go out, get involved in things that don't require a partner. Once you begin to do these things, it will get easier. I know that it is hard to forget the person, especially if you still care for them; you are consumed with what they are doing. If he was the right one, he'd still be around. You will find the right one eventually.
2007-02-17 07:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Therapy is seldomly the answer believe it or not.Maybe you should find someone new (not on here though,too many imature ones).What you need to figure out is why you are hung up on him.Then you may see more clearly.
2007-02-17 07:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry it takes time. When me and my ex broke up I was sooooooooo sad all the time and I didn't wanna do ANYTHING or talk to anyone. Just be patient cuz it'll get better soon. Try thinking about all the flaws in him and tell yourself it was his loss
2007-02-17 07:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by ALL SMILES :D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
therapy is dumb. they will just tell u what your friends did. take as much time as you need and then go have yourself some fun
2007-02-17 07:15:14 · answer #10 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your always right ya know than you would know it takes time.
2007-02-17 07:14:43 · answer #11 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋