Why is it so hard to tell your feelings? And how can you do it without getting hurt?

Question

Ive been kind of stressed out lately because I can't seem to figure out how I feel. My head keeps telling me that my long time crush was never really my crush and that I'm angry at myself for liking him at all, but for some reason I can't let go. Does that mean I like him or not? And I just recently ended up in a horrible and embarrassing situation with this guy, and I'm scared to show my face in front of him again. So should I follow what I'm PRETTY SURE I want? Or the little conscience telling me that I still like him?

Answer 1

Well, it's hard for people to tell their feelings becuase they don't want to get hurt. And how do you do it without getting hurt once? You can't. You will get heartbroken at least once in your life, so you just need to take the risk. You are giving him the decision of either ending your world as it is by saying no, or creating a whole new beginning by saying yes to you. Although it may seem hard at first, you need to follow your own instinct. Because instinct always seems to turn out right.

Answer 2

"Pretty sure" isn't good enough, even if you put it in all caps. You need to know for certain what you want. If you don't, how will you know whether or not you really have it? Don't proceed in either direction until you're sure of where you want to go.

As for your question: it's hard to tell your feelings because you realize, if only subconsciously, that you're taking a risk. Risk-taking is inherently scary. How do you do it without getting hurt? Well, I promise you that you will get hurt some of the time. You can only avoid this by never taking risks -- but the rewards are all on the far side of some kind of risk. The good news is, you will survive being hurt. The best way to make sure that you don't have to endure unnecessary hurts is to take good risks and avoid bad ones (i.e. the guy who cheated on his last three girlfriends will probably cheat on you, too -- but a guy who is a good friend to you will probably be a good bf as well). Apply these principles according to the details of your situation -- which you know and I don't -- and you should be OK.

Answer 3

Hmm, I got a little complicated, but, first of all telling your feelings is hard exactly because of the chance of being hurt. Because it's a risk. You don't say clearly what you want, I guess you want the guy but you don't like the fact you like him... That means you sure do. So maybe first you should see how things are going in future and confessing your feelings little later
Good luck
;)

Answer 4

You still like him. That's why your heart still tugs (the heart always knows best). Just do what you feel is the best thing to do cuz it's your life and we can't make these decisions for you. As for the embarrassing situation thing, he'll get over it. Embarrassing moments happen and we have to learn to accept them and laugh at ourselves lol trust me my life is like a giant embarrassing moment lol