2007-02-17 06:51:00 · 8 answers · asked by gitanjali 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That is beyond cruel and does not even make sense! Everyone knows what a joyful difference a Grandparent can make in a child's life. Any sensible person who loved their own Child would want as many people possible to love that Child, especially Grandparents who tend to be more patient and loving than the parent even has time for these days. I do think, upon refection here ,that perhaps an insecure parent might feel upset if the Child showed attachment to the Grandparents, but that would be short changing their very own Child that they should want the very best for!
2007-02-17 07:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by life coach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For years, I had a very bad relationship with my mother-in-law and when she told me that I was no longer welcome in her home, I retaliated by saying that my children were an extension of me and if I wasn't accepted there, then neither were her three grandchildren. I stuck to that vow. My weak husband (who could have nipped the problem in the bud) continued to see his parents every few weeks and for holidays, but not us. My in-laws did not see the children again and this was over a course of many, many years--even after our children were old enough to get in their cars and drive to their house only two miles away. My in-laws passed away without ever seeing their grandchildren again. On the one hand, I feel some remorse but on the other hand, not. The dynamics of a family conflict can vary sooo much from one to another. I hope that you can work things out BEFORE a lot of time is forever lost! Don't let pride or stubbornness hold you back from a reaching a workable resolution.
2007-02-17 07:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by HoneyBunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they feel threatened or think the grandparent is a bad influence. If the grandparent is a good one and respects the parents as well then I see no problem with a close relationship between the child and grandparent, it would be good for the child if as I said above it was a good grandparent.
2007-02-17 06:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe the parent didn't spend time with their grandparents and are just being unfair.
the child should let the parent know that they should want the best for the child and that it is good that the grandparents are spending time with their grandchildren because it might be the last chance they can.
2007-02-17 06:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the parents didn't have a good relationship with their parents, making them think that the grandparents will aslo not get along with the grandkids and vice-verca.
2007-02-17 08:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jeni R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parent forgets the saying about....what goes around, comes around. Someday their children may say the same thing to them about their grandchildren.
2007-02-17 08:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure why that was said, but it is a possibility that someone may be jealous of the relationship between grandparent and grandchild.
2007-02-17 06:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one ever said parents and children can all get along like a Hallmark card. It's rough, but workable if you're willing. Good luck.
2007-02-17 06:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋