I'm in serious trouble with my wife?

Question

On the day the baby was due, I was on the airplane flying back to the hospital. I had to go to the conference meeting at out of town. The airplane would have gone there a day sooner if it hadn't snowed that day. When she gave birth to the baby, I wasn't there. and now, my wife doesn't forgive me for not being there when she need me the most. I told my wife about the airplane but she is still mad at me. What do i do now? I still love her more than anything. I hope she will forgive me in the future.

Answer 1

Buy her a huge bouquet of flowers and a nice piece of jewelry. Write a very sentimental note telling her how sorry you are and how much you love her and the baby. I guarantee she will forgive you.

Answer 2

Her hormones are still surging right now. It will take time for them to drop back to normal. I'm sure she is upset but I know that she does realize it wasn't your fault that you couldn't make it on time. You tried. Not all men can even do that. Look at the men in Iraq. They get to come home after the baby is born, not before, not during and then they only have a small amount of time and have to go right back. At least you don't have to leave the country.

Spend lots of time with your wife and the new baby and tell them both that you love and adore them and that you will do everything for them. Women love hearing that. Also, tell your wife you're so proud of the beautiful baby she brought into the world and that you couldn't be happier. Just make sure you acknowledge the hard work she went through for this baby and how strong she was with you not present.

Just remember, the hormones will drop back to normal!

Answer 3

I don't know if there is much you can do. Sounds like she's being a little unreasonable. You tried to make it, that's all you could do. Try to explain to her again that you can't control the weather. You're there for her now and that's all that really matters. Be there for her as much as possible and show her you really love her and the baby. Did she have a complicated labor or something that she's so upset? I could have had my baby without my husband there, it really wasn't all that hard. I would have felt bad because he missed the birth of his own child, but if it was for a good reason, I wouldn't be mad.

Answer 4

You can't control the weather; give her time, she just had a baby for goodness sake. Show her that you think she's more important than your job. Keep apologizing and saying you love her, do something really sweet like buy her flowers and help with the baby, and she will eventually stop being mad at you, although the fact that you weren't there when the baby was born will never change.

Answer 5

Maybe she's still upset because you prioritiezed work over being with her so close to the time you both knew she was due. You need to think in terms of other people (i.e. more like a WOMAN) now that you are starting a family. If you actually realize this and don't just get angry and blow this answer off, then things might improve for you. I really hope they do!

Answer 6

She's hurt that you weren't there for the most important occasion of your lives. Forget that infantile talk of controlling and dogmatrix nonsense. Your wife is hurt that you didn't put enough thought and planning into your being there/ I'd find it hard to forgive you myself.
There's nothing really that you can do, except apologise. Express your sorrow at letting her down and missing the baby's birth. And I hope you mean it. Eventually she will forget it, but don't expect her to ever forgive you.

Answer 7

Well, I'm sorry to hear that your wife is mad at you. But dont worry she will forgive you, and now days... I dont even think you are allowed in the room when your giving birth... I'm not to sure thou... but if she loves you she will forgive you, an since she married you she must love you, and espically since you have a child together... she will get over it really soon... dont worry. it's going to be ok... just give it a couple of days maybe a week or two


best of luck

Answer 8

just give her time, she'll forgive u and all will b well. Just make sure u do lots of things to help her like cooking , cleaning, laundry, shopping, any thing u can do so she can get her rest.
Having a baby is very strenuous and takes alot out of u, not to mention the sleep one loses.
If u can do a middle of the night feeding once in awhile that WILL b greatly appreciated unless of course she's breast feeding.
Time will make things better , u can make them better faster by helping as much as possible
Good luck

Answer 9

Let her cool off and give her some time for her hormones to get back in check. She will forgive you, accidents do happen after all. Her body is still going through some crazy stuff, she will return to her usual self soon.

Answer 10

You should not have traveled at all when she was due. You can't blame this on the airplane!

No boss would force you to leave town when your child was due to be born. You should have had the balls to do whatever it took to stay in town when she was due.

I think you should give her a sincere apology, NOT BLAMING THE WEATHER OR THE PLANE and do whatever it takes to make it up to her. She might just need time for the pain to heal.

Answer 11

This is ridiculous. She is clearly very immature and has made this as something that is all about her. I recommend you stop apologizing and trying to make it up to her because that makes it look like you did something intentionally wrong. Tell her one more time, as an adult, that you regret deeply that it happened that way because you, yourself, missed that very important moment, the birth of your first child. However, you had no control over the situation so it's time to put it aside and go on. The focus should be on your love for the child anyway.