what do u do when u want to have a babi with your mate but the already have kids?

Question

his kids are 7&6 so he hasn't really been around a babi or his own for 6yrs. And hes 26 im 20

Answer 1

Is he a good father to his other children? If not, don't! There are too many children in the world with fathers who don't care about them. Don't add to the number.

Answer 2

Talk to him and see if he wants another child. If he does then the problem is solved, you are still young, so if hes not ready then wait a few years then bring up the subject again. Either evenually he will come around or you will for him.
I would dissuss it with him until then don't try to get pregnant he might no be ready for that and might make him upset and leave you, now if you discuss it and he wants a child with you then go for it. I would wait on him though to see what he says. "Accidental" prego makes men really upset when they don't want more childern, and if theres no ring hun they leave ya.
For me I have 2 kids that are not my husbands 8 & 6 and we have 2 kids of our own 4 & 18 m.

Answer 3

The best thing to do when you have a question about your mate is to sit down with him and ask him. It is a decision for you two to make. He is not that old not to remember about babies. I was 28 when my first child was born and 32 when my second child was born. So age has nothing to do with having babies. It is a mature and loving decision for both of you to make. Have a heart to heart talk with him. If he doesn't want a baby then you have to then decide if he is worth staying with. If he doesn't mind then he will tell you. Another thing is to ask yourself why he left his other mate? As most men his age will not like the idea once they are young and leave the women. So it is very important to a good relationship to ask him how he feels. No one can answer for him.

Answer 4

well if u just want a baby to have a baby, u r certainly old enough. If u want to have 1 with him and he doesn't want to then u could b in a pickle. If u can afford to raise a child all by urself then if u get pregnant it won't b a hardship if he walks out on u.
does he even want another baby or is he adamant about no more children, if so then i suggest u find another mate.

Answer 5

Take his past behavior as a clue to how your future will be! If he already has 2 children and is not active in their lives, he will not stick around to help you raise a child, either.

I understand he was very young when he had his kids, but he's older now and should have chosen to be a part of their lives.

Answer 6

dicuss it openly with him,way all the pros & cons.even though he already has kids he can still have more & there is no better training than "hands-on".