where in the bible does it say pre-martial sex is wrong?

Answer 1

Ha! It doesn't! My husband and I looked desperately for God's answer to this and came up with nothing. We even asked our preacher at the time and he could not tell us a straight answer, only his thoughts on the subject.It speaks of fornication, but exactly what falls under that? We cant put our own words in God's mouth on what that means. The real question is "What does God consider marriage to be?" Man, not God, created the tradition of requiring a preist to be married, and its only done for legal purposes. But when does GOD consider two to be married? It never says. A preist wasn't there to marry Adam and Eve, and God never had a ceremony done for it(or at least theres no account of it, so it must have not been that important to God)they simply chose each other as a mate and it was done. So does God really consider you married when two people make the choice to be with each other for life? If so, then when this choice is made, wouldn't it be okay to sleep together before having the actual ceremony, if you have already devoted yourselves to one another? I don't know. The question is still out there, and no one will ever know the truth to it because the bible doesn't have a direct answer to it.

Answer 2

1 Corinthians 6:16
1 Thessalonians 4:3-4, 7
Hebrews 13:4
Matthew 5:27-28
Galatians 5:19, 21
1 Corinthians 6:19, 20
1 Corinthians 7:2, 8-9
2 Peter 2:9
1 Corinthians 10:3
Matthew 5:8
Psalm 119:9,11
Ephesians 5:2-3

God Bless! P.S. check out the books by Joshua Harris... Boy Meets Girl, Not Even a Hint, and I Kissed Dating Goodbye. An Elizabeth Elliot's book Passion and Purity!!!

Answer 3

I can't find the actual passage but it goes like this.....

No man shall lay with another nor a beast. (meaning no sex with the same sex nor with animals). No man shall lay with a woman prior to marriage, if a man shall lay with a woman prior, then that man must marry that woman inside of 30 days, or it is a sin.

I have yet to find it say "you cannot have sex prior to marriage" but there are numerous passages talking about "do not lust, do not have lust in your heart" which all comes down to more or less drooling and getting turned on over the opposite sex.

But all these things, sex, lust, etc is fully allowed with your spouse once married. That is what the Bible is trying to teach you. That to share "sex" and all its acts and levels with anyone besides your spouse is wrong, for it destroys the experience and the very bond you have between the two of you.

Anyone who has had sex prior to marriage can relate to this statement as we all say "yea...I remember my first". Why do we recall that first so well? Cause of that very bond that God mentions. And that bond is what keeps you together through a life time of hardships.

Ever notice how high divorce is today with sex before marriage compared to just 100 yrs ago when sex was not the norm prior to marriage.

Answer 4

Being in love doesn't alter the reality that the sexual act is outside of marriage, marriage being the ceremonial union of a man and woman in matrimony. Sex outside of marriage is called fornication and the Bible definitely condemns it.

Matt. 15:19-20, "For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders. 20 “These are the things which defile the man."
Acts 15:29, "...that you abstain from things sacrificed to idols and from blood and from things strangled and from fornication; if you keep yourselves free from such things, you will do well."
1 Cor. 6:9-10, "Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God."
Heb. 13:4, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge."
So, very clearly fornication is condemned in scripture and there is no provision for it being acceptable just because someone loves each other. Besides if this couple is so much in love, then why don't they carry out what true love is and marry each other? True love is when you put another person first, not when you take from them. For a man and woman to engage in fornication is to declare that such love for the other person is more self centered, than other centered.

Answer 5

Fornication is a sin and fornication is sex outside of a marriage. Ephesians 5:5 Webster's Standard Dictionary says fornication noun sexual intercourse between unmarried persons, and for that matter would also include homosexuality.

Answer 6

Ex. 20: 14
14 Thou shalt not commit adultery.

"Adultery" is literally engaging in any sexual act with someone to whom you are not married. It is not limited to married persons having an "affair" with another married or non-married person. If you are having sex or any sexual relationship with a person to whom you are legally and lawfully wed, that is basically adultery and a sin. But, thank heaven for repentance, we make mistakes and we can repent.

Answer 7

It was one of injunctions of the Jerusalem Church to all Gentile believers, under the leadership of the apostles and the elders:
"For it seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us, to lay upon you no greater burden than these essentials:
That you abstain from things sacrificed to idols and from blood and from things strangled AND FROM FORNICATION; if you keep yourselves free from such things, you will do well, Farewell." (Acts 15:28,29)

"For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from fornication; and that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in lustful passion like the Gentiles who do not know God." (I Thessalonians 4:3-5)

Answer 8

By "pre-martial sex" do you mean sex before a battle?

Answer 9

Proverbs 5:15-21
Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer-- may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man's wife? For a man's ways are in full view of the LORD, and he examines all his paths.
(There are 32 other verses in the Old Testament speaking about a "virgin" or "virgins." Each of these passages shows that virginity was highly cherished as the standard for God's people.)

1 Corinthians 6:16-18
Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh." But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.

1 Corinthians 7:1-2
Now about the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to live a celibate life. But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.

1 Corinthians 7:8-9
Now I say to those who aren't married and to widows it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can't control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It's better to marry than to burn with lust.

Ephesians 5:31
"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."

1 Thessalonians 4:2-8
For you know what instructions we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to acquire a wife in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this manner no one should cheat his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.

Hebrews 13:4
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

1 Timothy 5:2
Treat older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.

1 Corinthians 7:7:28,34,36-38
In these verses how virginity is assumed for unmarried women living in Christian homes. This is the same thing as we saw in the Old Testament. Virginity was the standard for God's people.

1 Corinthians 6:9-11
Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders... will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

But you should also use common sense to understand why sexual relations outside of marriage is wrong. Sex creates bonds where otherwise there might not be any. I believe that anyone can sleep with their worst enemy, and if the sex is good, they will develop feelings for each other, whereas without the sex, they would continue to not be able to stand each other.

How many pcouples do you know of that fight all of the time, don't get along at all, and are not what could even remotely be called friends with each other, yet their relationship still continues. Ask them why they put up with each other, and you will hear them say, blindly, "Because I love him/her."

Do they really love each other? Do they trust each other, look out for each other, take care of each other, stick together, etc? God wants us to remain chaste until AFTER we get married, so that we can build a strong friendship with our potential spouse BEFORE we introduce a bond that will only be strong enough to keep us together temporarily. A sexual relationship without friendship is doomed, because eventually, the bond created by sex won't be enough to keep it together.

Jesus said to look at the fruit of a tree to decide if the tree is good or not. A good tree will produce good fruit, but a bad tree will not produce any fruit, and will be cut down. Or worse, the fruit is rotten.

What fruit is produced by sexual immorality? Babies born out of wedlock, sexually transmitted diseases, AIDS, an inability to bond with the right person, because sex has become something that just isn't special anymore, personal unfulfillment, low self esteem, sexual addictions, etc.

From my own personal experience, there was a time not so very long ago when I was a slave to my penis, and I wasn't happy at all. Now that I keep it in my pants, I have found that I can actually grow to care about some of the girls I date, and my mind doesn't get clouded by great sex with someone that I otherwise don't get along with. I see that now I am more likely to find the girl who will be my best friend, and once we are married, we will have a great sex life, too. I never would have had that before.

Answer 10

I dont think it says that anywhere in the Bible and ist just an idea that religion has initiated in their beliefs.