what would you guys say about this?

Question

two weeks ago i asked a question that titled ( are my parents right?) i just got married in may 2006 and i my husband and i
just bought a new home our closing date is march 4. iam 32 years old and iam on social security and i work part- time. my husband
makes dame good money and we are happy about out first new home. i pay my parents $200 a month out $673 i get the
3rd of every month. i have other bills of my own and i dont
really stay at home even though i live with my mother for
the time being. i only have 2 more weeks here and im gone.
last month i asked my parents could i keep the whole $673 to
go toward my house my husband and i are doing this together.
they said no that i have to pay their rent. i just need my money
for that one month for my house. my 29 year old brother who
stay with us two just started a new job. he was not paying any
rent or bills at all he starts tuesday and they let him keep his
first 2 checks to do what ever he wants. what do you guys think

Answer 1

I would say your parents are not very loving toward you.
what did you do to piss them off?
if your husband makes good dam money then just give them their money you owe mind your own "p's" and "Q's" and get the hell out of ther house.

Answer 2

I think the fact that you are moving out they could have agreed to let you keep the money, you have two options say you need the money and stand firm ,or give them what you owe and the problem will end there ,I think what is unfair is the fact your brother got away for the two weeks , parents must be consistent with their children.It is understandable when you live at home you contribute to upkeep of the house ,but so does everyone else. How well off are your parents ,or are they struggling to make ends meet , I hope they will be as straight up with your brother,good luck in your new home and be glad you have one .

Answer 3

Presume you get paid monthly? Think back to when you first started paying your parents. Did you pay your parents a month in advance of a month in arrears? There lies your answer. If it was arrears they may expect a full month before you go. Much also depends on their financial circumstances, perhaps they are struggling so a couple of weeks money helps them quite a bit. If they are comfortable and just being awkward with you that seems unfair but if they are comfortable and think if you are so well off as a couple you are unreasonable I see their point. Afraid the 'brother' thing goes back as far as the bible and the Prodigal Son and never likely to change with parents!

Answer 4

Sounds to me like your parents are being unfair to you. But my question is why you are living with your parents if you are 32 and married. Do your parents depend on that money to make their bills? If they are just charging you rent for the sake of charging you rent, then I think they are being unfair with you. But if they rely on that money to make their bills then it's pretty clear why they want you to pay - but I would question what they are going to do once you move out and they no longer get that $200 each month. At the same time, you say your husband makes 'damn good money', so do you really need that extra $200 to use for the house - are you just wanting the money so you can buy "things" for the house or do you really need it to pay bills? Remember if you're married, your bills are also your husbands and vice versa - and the same goes for income.

Answer 5

Listen ,, help is most welcome in your situation ,moving in your house ..lots of things you can spend the money on ..
bear in mind $200 a month that you pay your parents ,isn't a great deal of money .for the whole months stay ,food and what ever else you are getting from them
possibly food for the Husband and , others that you are using which your parents will pay the bill eventually..
are they well off ,or are they struggling to make ends meet ,,so don't begrudge the $200 ,,

Answer 6

I think it's time to cut the umbilical cord. I've never heard of such non-sense. If your parents cannot be fair about something like that, it sounds pretty selfish if you ask me. What about having your little brother(29) help his parents like you do.
I am a parent and I firmly believe that my goal is to help my children and not burden them when it's their turn to form their own family and home.
I commend you for helping them though. It shows that you have an appreciation for them. But honestly it's time to involve the little brother with half of rent money towards your parents. Also grow up and live your life as a devoted wife and support your husband, let go of the parental control.

Answer 7

Just don't pay them! Do you have a binding contract that says you have to pay rent every month? Do they really need the money? Hold on to your money and put it towards your new home. Once you are in your own home, you can lock the door!

Answer 8

I think you need to pay your mom rent up until you move out. if 200 dollars is going to hurt you ma bey you should not buy this house. It might suck about your brother not paying rent but that's none of your business. you leave with no debt to them. But my question to you what the hell are you at age 32 and your brother at age 29 still living at Mommy's house. I left at the age of 18 got my own apartment

Answer 9

Most parents would do anything to help there children out. Do they really need the money. If not I think its being a bit mean but maybe they have there reasons.
Good luck with your new home.

Answer 10

You need to speak to your parents and find out what their problem is and why it is one rule for you and another for your brother. Try and stay calm and explain to them why you need the money and that you dont think youre going to be able to give them the money. It sounds to me like theyre being unreasonable