Are my fears justified???

Question

While I am usually able to put this out of my mind, the fact that I have been completely alone for over two years, despite my best attempts to meet someone, has recently become increasingly acute and caused me to worry that I am loosing my opportunity to do so.

I currently volunteer at several charitable organization, participate in on-line dating (a scam), attend church, and hit the bar/club scene to no avail.

What concerns me is the fact that the high stress nature of my job has caused me to age rapidly, giving me the appearance of a 40 year old (graying hair, stress lines, etc.) when I am only 23.

I've found that many girls who are my age see me as an old man who shouldn't be talking to them while women who are in their 30's and 40's won't date me either.

I'm worried that if I don't meet someone soon, either as a good friend or something more, I'll loose my opportunity to do so, condemning me to a life of loneliness.

Are my fears justified???

Just Me,

While I have though about attempting to ask out one of the girls at work, my employer is very worried that they will be sued for workplace sexual harassment and have made it a termination offense for two employees to date or for an employee to ask another to join them for so much as coffee.

Were I to be fired under these conditions, it is unlikely that I would ever be able to get another job in my field or in any other field that pays a decient wage.

Answer 1

I'm in the same place as you chief. I did however end a six year relationship about a year ago, I'm the same age as you. I'm not worried though, I'm just going to enjoy the time I have with friends/family/co-workers, if any opportunities present themselves I may act on them, if not oh well. If I'm going to be alone, then so be it. You shouldn't be worried we have many years left in us, and remember there is more women then men in the world (well atleast in the U.S).

Answer 2

Yes, sadly; you are too correct,---too "atypical" You must "loosen up" listen to some Rap music and some Soul music,Western,Trance, become more open to lighthearted endeavors, small talk--contemplating the shape of clouds as animals and Angels! Get up in the morning and decide to just "allow" "suffer" the day to be "serendipitous" for you! Go to the Zoo or a Park, buy a remote control toy speed boat and have a day at the Parks lake, you will meet soooo many lovely people just out to enjoy the day! This is the best way to chat and mingle in a carefree way! Don't be soooo serious! You can listen to your Classical music and Shakespeare any time. Good Luck! P.S Wear some baggy shorts and a cool T-shirt, no slacks with a belt and a polo shirt!! Be the young guy you are!

Answer 3

Your fears,are only there because your not doing anything to change them. If your job is that stressful,I suggest maybe you should change jobs. Secondly put an effort in doing your hair add some color, buy some new clothes.If you don't make yourself feel good, you won't feel good and people will not be attracted to someone that doesn't take care of themselves.You say that your only 23, you shouldn't have a problem at that age, start doing things to look your age, because if your having problems now, when you do get 30 or 40 you will have bigger problems, work on yourself now, so that when you get older, you will still look good.

Answer 4

no i dont think they are. My partner is 41 and im 21 so even if you do look a little older it doesn't mean to say you wont meet some one because of it. What do you do? Maybe you should think about changing your job. To be honest though sounds like you are to busy to meet someone with everything you do.

Answer 5

No. If you focus on what you don't have or don't want you validate it as your true reality, giving it more life than what it needs.

You have always received that which you place your attention on.

Start the visualization process of that which you want. See it, believe it, know it, and then be open to what happens next.

Read this material, it will help. : www.abraham-hicks.com

If it rubs against what you believe then it is right for you.

Insanity is to continue thinking and doing what you have always been thinking and doing and expecting different results. ~

Answer 6

Absolutely not!! Never give up, but I'll tell you what....all the cliches are true. "good things happen to those who wait" and "it happens when you least expect it" Especially the second one! Concentrate on your job, your finances or anything else in your life. Don't go looking for love or you'll never find it! Good luck!!

Answer 7

my advice is to stop looking and miss right will eventually turn up when u least expect it.. dont worry about the fact that u look older, it will b ur personality that attracts sum 1 to u not ur looks.. good luck 4 the future :)

Answer 8

Color your hair and get out there....look at all the things girls do themselves....the underwire bra isn't worn just for discomfort you know...hair spray and makeup isn't just for fun..you can color your hair and not feel bad...you sound like a good gy, unlike the first idiot who answered this question...get out there...and trust me at 23 it isn't too late, it is just beginning...by the way I have a daughter...........lol........

Answer 9

First of all you are too self centered! You also would scare me off because bars and church don't mesh well together.

Answer 10

you are still young , you will meet someone. work is a great place to meet people.
dont kill yourself working so hard , enjoy life.