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Question

Alright,so again with the 'kid'
I love him more as a....not family type.
Like,I would love a video game.
I mean,it's not like I just completely mute him out of my life.
We do alot of things together,and gaah.
And by the way,I am not 'with' his Mom.
We haven't dated since she was like,14.
She just gets time with him,and in that time,she says terrible things.
I really have no control over what she says,or does.
To get this straight,I don't like not love him because of his constant swearing and telling me he hates me. I don't know why I don't love him.
Anyway,on to the question.
Is there like,anyother deciplin ideas other than,the spanking ( I don't care what you believe in,but I wouldn't do that to my child ) and "time out"
I've heard it about a million times,and when he does something wrong I talk to him about it,so he realizes what he did wrong.
Nothing seems to work.
And no Jackk bashing please...

Oh yeah,I'm so taking his cell away.
He's 2 years old.

Answer 1

You can give a kid that age a "time out". Usually a chair in a corner of a room or even sitting on the stairs for a cool off period. It shouldn't last more than 3 or 4 minutes at this age.
He's too young to really understand you when you try and talk about what he's doing wrong. You tell him "No that's bad or wrong" & if he does it again, it's a time out. Repetition at this stage is important and you need to be consistant. So each time he does the same thing wrong he gets the same type of punishment.

There really isn't any other type of discipline at this stage of the game. Do fun things with him - going for walks, playing with him on the floor (they love playing with all the plastic kitchen stuff - a plastic tub and a wooden spoon - great drums), take him to pet stores to see the animals, the zoo. If you keep him busy he won't have time to get into trouble (and he'll be too tired).

Good luck. It's a hard age. Oh another thing you can do. Put him in a high chair with a pile of shaving cream infront of him. He can mess around with it & have a ball. It's an easy clean up too.

Answer 2

First of all, I have no idea what you are talking about up there when you say; "I don't know why I don't love him." This is my very first answer I have ever made.

But as far as discipline goes; I know exactly how you feel.

When he acts out, or uses bad language, try taking something of his away. Something he likes a whole bunch. Tell him why you are taking it.
As with "all" forms of discipline, consistency is the key. Do it until he understands that you will not tolerate this kind of behavior.
My five year old had the same problem. For the last year, he would make all kinds of sexual remarks, and swear. But taking that x-box away broke his filthy habit. But still, there are times when he messes up; and I am still there taking the x-box away when he does. He knows that if he does something wrong, he will loose that x-box, and that, is his whole life.

Answer 3

Hes two and he has a cell phone?? He curses at you? You need a spine man!!! Smack that brat in the mouth!!! I would knock my little girl off her feet. Why should he respect you? Your acting like a doormat!!! You talk to him but hes only two try busting his little butt!! As long as you dont beat the crap out of him its ok to spank. Oh and if u dont love him then maybe you should comsider giving custody to somebdy who does like a grandparent or even adoption. If he feels unloved he doesnt care what u say you dont love him is all he thinks. Maybe hes just trying to get your affection any way he can!!!

Answer 4

Take something away that they enjoy doing. Computer, video games, cell phone, etc. Good luck.

Answer 5

The removal of priveleges usually works well. No computer, stereo, tv, etc helps sometimes.

Answer 6

Dude.. just shut the hell up. If you said that about my kid I would stab you in the sack.

Answer 7

he is looking for attention so give him more attention