a month ago my gf of 2 yrs left me for another colleage she had a 1 week fling with. i have heard nothing until valentines day when she sent me a card saying " i still love you and you will never have me back. but i was wondering if you would have me back...it doesnt matter I love you " So what does it mean? does she want to come back? is she still with the other guy or at her mums? is she messing with my heart and head ? or all the above...and what shall i do because i cant live without her by the way i sent the card back saying i loved her and mybe we could be friends but i need time to get over the hurt.........
2007-02-17 05:42:17 · 6 answers · asked by Wise_guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
clearly she has cheated once before, maybe more but who knows. basically she left you for this other guy as she needed(as all women do) attention. i have learnt from this too, love makes you blind and when your with someone you love everything seems fine....my ex told me that she cheacted on her ex with the guy she was going out with before him.this should of kinda sunk in however i had the love bug. bottom line is....people do change, but will your perception on her?can you trust her?i wish you all the best. dont let her manipulate you in any way.good look.tallyho
2007-02-17 21:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by scott g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing - be her friend and spend time with her and if in your heart you feel you can forgive her then it may work. Some people can never get over the fact that they have been cheated on.
Personally I would leave her alone I couldn't go back with someone that could go off after 2 years and have a fling with someone. It really sounds as though she has lost her fling or had enough of him and realised what she has missed or she is feeling lonely.
Either way if you really want someone like this in your life then that is your choice but are you not a better person who deserves to find true love and not settle for 2nd best??
2007-02-17 14:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her & think she is the one for you then give it another go but she needs to win back your confidence so you can trust her again. take it slowly, dont rush into anything. it may be a case of having tried the greener grass over the over side of the fence, she has suddenly realised that it isn't as sweet as she thought it would be & has come to appreciate you more.
2007-02-17 14:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by ATP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are right to try to be friends first. You still need to forgive her for what she did--until you do that--it will be very difficult to have a trusting relationship with her! It also sounds like she might be pursing passion instead of true love!
2007-02-17 13:50:02 · answer #4 · answered by chastity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater, move on dude.
2007-02-17 13:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the rite ting. now go out with her best friend.
2007-02-17 13:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by vulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋