I am a 26-year-old single mom. I have been dating this guy for just under 2 years now. We are a perfect match... The thing is, any time I bring up marriage...he makes light of it and changes the subject. We get along great and I know we are meant to be together. I know that he avoids this topic because of his ex-wife...she was really mean to him and now he has a complex and issues with trust. I only have one child...and I definitely want more, soooo, should I keep waiting or move on and find someone else??
2007-02-17 05:41:28 · 7 answers · asked by sugarmama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he all u say he is, he sounds like hes worth waiting for.
However, i dont think its unfair to have him tell u if he sees a future for the two of u, like u do for him.
Sounds like the two of you need to talk and see the deep side of your relationship.
Perhaps give him the reasons u wish to get married and tell him about the children issue. Talk openly and see if he shares your ideas for a future together.
good luck
2007-02-17 05:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young, take your time. Marriage is always going to be an option. As long as you are happy and he is being supportive and helpful and a good dad to your child. Don't worry. You would not want him to pressure him into marrying you. I would certainly bring up the subject from time to time, just to see how his feelings have changed. Give it another year. I think after he is feeling more secure with you, and himself he will ask you to marry him. I hope you are living together, because it will give you both a better idea of how well you can co-habitate together in all situations.
2007-02-17 13:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let him know exactly what your thinking about your future and how you would love for him to be a part of it.
We all deserve second chances at anything in life, after all we are human and we all make mistakes.
The main thing is you are not her (the ex) you are you.
If he can't move on from that, he might have some other issues in his life or is just not interested yet in getting married at this point in his life, maybe he has other things in life he wants to do, before he leaps in to marriage again.
Ask him, talk to him. I mean communication is the biggest thing between a couple.
2007-02-17 13:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by Elka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a perfect match then I would assume he would feel that way too and forget about past problems. It's been a little under 2 years wouldn't you say it is time for him to look forward? You shouldn't make excuses for him anymore. Go for what you want and let him go if he can't commit.
2007-02-17 13:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after a divorce, you should not even consider marriage until about the fourth year in the relationship, to make sure it's the right thing to do.
2007-02-17 13:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by J-Dub 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
keep waiting. he may change his views on marriage.
2007-02-17 13:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by happy_crazy_in_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him for his opinion on breaking up
2007-02-17 13:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by vulu 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋